If your past relationships were full of games and deceit, you might bring baggage from the past into the present. But if you want to move forward with someone and have a long, solid relationship, it's important that you recognize a good thing. Here's a look at seven signs that you're in a mature, healthy relationship.
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1. You Rarely Argue
Every couple has arguments. You are two different people with two different opinions and viewpoints. However, if you notice that arguments in your current relationship are few and far in-between, this is a sign that you're finally in a mature, healthy relationship with someone who doesn’t nitpick or stir up unnecessary drama.
2. Your Arguments Are Easily Resolved
Not only do you fight less in this relationship, when arguments or disagreements occur, you’re able to handle them like mature individuals. Instead of yelling and talking over each other, you give yourself time to calm down and express how you feel without belittling the other person.
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3. You Trust Each Other
In the past, maybe you didn't trust your partner. Maybe you were cheated on, or perhaps your partner was a habitual liar. If you absolutely, 100% trust the person you're with, this is a good sign that the relationship is moving in the right direction. You don't feel a need to go through your partner’s cell phone or emails to make sure he's being honest, nor do you feel the need to question his whereabouts every second of the day.
4. You Give Each Other Space
Some partners are extremely clingy and want to be together every minute of the day. Everyone needs space. As you become older and start establishing mature relationships, you'll understand the importance of giving your partner space, and taking space for yourself. You have a life outside the relationship, so don’t feel bad about hanging out with your friends or family alone, or exploring personal interests.
5. You Know How to Communicate
Good communication is important in any relationship. Now that you're in a mature, healthy relationship, you and your partner communicate in a way that builds each other up and strengthens the relationship. There's no name-calling or belittling. If you learn that your partner doesn't like the way you talk to him, you make an effort to change the behavior.
6. You Bring out the Best in Each Other
Another sign of a good, healthy relationship is bringing out the best in each other. Your partner might motivate you to follow your paths and dreams, and you might give him support or encouragement when he's feeling down. When it's all said and done, you want to be the best girlfriend.
7. He Puts Your Needs Ahead of His Own
A selfish, one-sided relationship isn't healthy or mature. If you think about your partner’s feelings more than yours, and if you’re more than happy to put his needs ahead of your own and vice versa, the relationship will likely get stronger and you'll become a closer couple. Relationships don't work when people only care about their needs.
Hopping from boyfriend to boyfriend gets exhausting, and you might prefer a long-term committed relationship. If you haven't had much success in the past, be confident that your prince charming is around the corner.
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Kirsty: Glad to be reading the rarely argue part. Most people say if you never argue you're basically doomed to fail. I will never understand their logic. I think if the communication and trust is there then there is no need to argue at all
Splashhhh: Trust trust and honesty if its not in a relashionship its garbage
Cindee: This is all true! 35 years next month!
Nia: The trust and communication is huge!
Zeekiah: Immature people is kinda exhausting to be with.
Wins: That's realistic and true
Claudia: I've been in a relationship for 2 years now (anniversary sep 22) recently I changed my job and as I got to know the girls that was giving me training, we started talking about our relationships with our boyfriends. I told her I rarely fight with mine and when we do its easily resolved. After she heard that she completely shocked me with a question, "so he doesn't care? aren't you afraid he's going to cheat on you?" And that exact moment I tried to give her the answer she expects because she fights a lot with her boyfriend. But it made me realized that in a mature relationship there's no need to be constantly fighting, if you feel the need to pick on everything and start an argument there something wrong with your relationship. Also, I come from a family where my parents are constantly fighting and I can honestly admit that seeing that only makes me want to spend less time with them, so if you're always fighting remember how you kids or future kids are going to feel. I think nothing feels better than being in a relationship or family where fights are rare.
peony: I agree
The: My relationship with my boyfriend is getting better and it is exactly like this
Shilpi: Trust is very important than others
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