After a break up, you might decide to take time off from dating. This gives you an opportunity to evaluate what went wrong, and you can work on yourself. But after several months, you might consider looking for love again. It can be hard to know whether you're ready to move on, but here are seven signs to help you decide whether you’re ready to move onto a new relationship.
1 You’re No Longer Bitter about the Break up
After breaking up with your ex, you might be bitter and angry for some time. This is normal, especially if you did everything possible to make the relationship work. Some people jump into a new relationship before they’ve completely healed from the hurt of an old one. This is dangerous because you might bring baggage into your new relationship. But if you can honestly say you're no longer bitter about a break up, chances are you’re ready for a new relationship.
2 You're a Better Version of Yourself
After a break up, it's easy to point the finger. But oftentimes, both parties contributed to the demise of the relationship. Do some soul-searching after breaking up with an ex and knowledge your mistakes. If you own up to your mistakes and take steps to become a better version of yourself, you might be ready to meet someone new. With an improved attitude and better habits, you can have fewer problems in your new relationship.
3 Guys Are No Longer Your Main Focus
Some people quickly move from one relationship to another. If guys are your main focus, finding a new love immediately after a break up might be a priority. But it's okay to take time for yourself. Spend time with your girlfriends. You don’t need a guy to complete you. There's nothing wrong with having a partner, but it shouldn't be your main focus.
4 You’ve Learned How to Take Care of Yourself
Some people also jump from relationship to relationship because they feel the need to be taken care of. After a break up, this is the perfect opportunity to learn how to stand on your own two feet. If you immediately jump into a new relationship, you’ll slowly become codependent on your partners. Use this time to grow and discover yourself.
5 You’re Happy with Who You Are
Additionally, some people jump from relationship to relationship because they think they need a partner to feel happy. It’s important that you learn to be happy with your self. There's no guarantee you're always going to have a partner, and if you rely on someone else to make you happy, you run the risk of feeling extreme loneliness after every break up. Learn how to make yourself happy before getting into a new relationship.
6 You Have a Good Work-life Balance
Then again, maybe your last relationship didn’t work because you couldn't find a healthy work-life balance. If you feel you're still unable to find a balance, this is not the time to get into a new relationship. Wait until your life and schedule calms down and then look for love.
7 You Know What You're Looking for
In the past, maybe you dated anyone who asked you out. As a result, you got into relationships with people who didn't match your personality. It's important to know what you want in a partner. For example, are you looking for someone who’s adventurous, or someone who’s low-key? Make sure you know what qualities you want in a partner before looking for a new relationship.
Breaks ups can be rough. However, if you take time after a break up to reevaluate your life and improve yourself, you might deal with fewer issues in your next relationship. What are other signs you're ready to start dating after a break up?