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There are so many tricks guys use to get into your pants and knowing what they are can save you a lot of heartache.
Is he really into you or is he just buttering you up to get into your pants? Is he into the whole idea of you being together as a couple or are you just his go-to for getting his rocks off? Men are more physical than women and also, freer in pursuing those physical needs. So how do you tell if he’s using one of these sneaky tricks guys use to get into your pants?
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Flattery is one of the most effective plays in the dating guidebook, but it is also one of the most transparent! Lines like “I’ve never met anyone like you before” and “there is something special about you”, especially on a first date, are nothing but a ploy to get down and dirty early on! If you hear these words, you can assume he's using one of the most classic tricks guys use to get into your pants.
Bear in mind that while a bit of charm can certainly add sparkle to your interaction, it's also a well-oiled technique to lower defenses. Those well-timed compliments on your appearance or the way you carry yourself might not be spur-of-the-moment observations but rather, calculated remarks. A guy who lays it on thick with phrases like, “You have the most amazing smile I’ve ever seen,” may simply be laying the groundwork for a temporary fling. Trust your gut—if the flattery feels overdone, it's likely more about his goals than your ego.
Unfortunately, it can also go the other way, the way that sees him trying to shoot down your self-esteem in a reverse psychology kind of way. He might indulge in a spot of flirting with the waitress in order to make you jealous, thinking that taking away his attention will make you want to sleep with him just to prove a point!
Oh, there are quite a few! Some guys might shower you with compliments, while others could play the 'nice guy' card. Some might get super flirty or even try to make you jealous. It's usually pretty sneaky stuff!
If he's overly eager to get physical but doesn't show much interest in your life or feelings, that's a red flag. Also, if he disappears or loses interest after things get steamy, that's a good sign he was only in it for one thing.
Be upfront and firm about your boundaries. If he respects them, great! If not, it's time to show him the door. Remember, your comfort and feelings are most important.
Communicate your feelings clearly. A good guy will understand and wait until you're ready. If he pressures you, he’s probably not the right person for you at that moment.
It's possible! Some might start with less serious intentions but develop deeper feelings as they get to know you. However, always trust your gut and pay attention to how he's acting and the effort he’s putting into the relationship.
He’ll nearly always want to go to bed before starting a serious relationship, so just be wary of the kind of guys who are all too willing to talk about the future before you have even got to know them. He is probably just saying the things that he thinks you want to hear so he can get into your pants!
How many times have you all heard this one? He invites you up for what he promises is an innocent coffee or an episode of a show, and one way or another you end up in bed together than same night. It’s all consensual of course, but that sneaky innocent invite quickly turns in to something sexier!
Don’t worry. I’m not talking about the illegal kind of drink buying, I’m talking about that one extra drink that he hopes will help you loosen up and lose some of your inhibitions. Don’t fall for the trick of accepting another free drink, because you never know what he might try next!
He’ll drop casual comments about how good he is in the bedroom department, from kissing to foreplay to much, much more! This is usually a really transparent way of trying to get you excited about what might be coming your way, with the added hope that it is sooner rather than later!
This is totally linked to the previous point about boasting. Whether it’s through one on one conversation or more general chats among you and his buddies, he will make it seem like sleeping with him is the ultimate in romantic conquests. He’ll probably add in a line saying that he only sleeps with people he’s really into, which will automatically make you feel more special.
If you have been in a relationship and recently broken up, one of the biggest reasons that he will still linger around is because he wants to see if you’re going to be up for a little post breakup, kill the heartbreak nookie. This is when you are at your most vulnerable, and he’s playing on that.
Plenty of jerks will pull this move, offering to do a lot of favours for you with the expectations that you will put out for them as a way of saying thanks. You should never feel obliged to sleep with a guy just because he offered to help you carry your couch upstairs or has driven you to work for a week!
If he threatens to break up with you simply because you don’t want to have sex with him whenever he wants, then believe me, he’s not the type of guy that you want to be in a long-term relationship with anyway! No one should expect you to put out more often than you want to.
Sex is not a weapon. Don’t fall for his sneaky tricks.
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