If there is one thing that we all know, it is that when it comes to romance, the heart wants what the heart wants, and there is not much you can do about it! Most of the time that can be navigated without trouble, but when the person that you fall for happens to be an ex of one of your best friends, then you are definitely getting in to tricky waters! It might be something that is traditionally a no-no amongst friends, but if you’ve got it bad for someone, you owe it to yourself to pursue it; it could be the love of your life! Here is** how to break the girl code and keep your friend**!
1. Check the Status
Before you make any kind of move towards him, you need to do your research to check what the current status of the old relationship is. If there are still feelings there, stay away. If there is beef that is still going strong, weigh it up for your own purposes. Check out what kinds of emotions are still at play with your friend before you go ahead and involve yourself with a guy she used to call her own.
2. Weigh the Stakes
Take some time to think about the stakes, and whether making this kind of move is going to be worth it. Is your friend that kind of girl who would take it hard and never speak to you again if you got with her ex? If so, is he worth ending a friendship over? Alternatively, if you come to the conclusion that she would be cool with it if you were honest, then that’s a different story.
3. Make the Rounds
Before you act on your crush, it’s worth making the rounds and floating the idea with a few mutual friends. Gauging their reactions can be a helpful tool in figuring out how the friend in question might react. If the response you get is generally positive, then it probably means that the friend will feel the same way.
4. Be Honest
If you do decide to go for it, then you need to be honest with your friend from the very beginning. If you keep things quiet and then she finds out from someone else that you are dating her ex, it will look like this huge big secret and feel like an even bigger deal than it should be.
5. Get the Green Light
At the end of the day, the only real way to ensure that you can date her ex whilst still maintaining a friendship is to ask her and get the green light directly from the horse’s mouth. If you have been friends with her for a long time, then you owe it to her to tell her how you feel and what you want to do. If she gives you the green light, then great. If she freaks out, then you’ve got a problem on your hands.