Nobody likes to be smothered and that's that. How do you show your love without making him feel like he's drowning in it? Guest contributor Talia tells you how!
We love our boyfriends but is there such a thing as loving them too much? Sometimes we really need to give men their space.
1. Know That Smothering is an Act of Insecurity
Many of us are insecure in relationships, especially at the beginning of one. It's important to not let our anxiety about oneself or the relationship ultimately drive our relationships. Trust in one another's feelings and give everything time. I mean you're already with the guy, right. Be happy.
2. Smothering Comes off Needy and Desperate
No one wants to be with a needy or desperate person so try not to come off that way. You truly don't need to be telling someone everyday all day how you care about them. Men especially need their space when they're tired, sick, or have something on their mind. Don't always think it's about you.
3. Know the Importance of Respect, Even in a Relationship
If you smother, you are not respecting the space of your significant other. In the long run, this may cause them to resent you which is one of the worst things that can happen if you're keen about having a mature relationship. Respect one another's decisions and alone time.
4. Know That Relationships Need Oxygen
Relationships need time to breathe. No one needs to be with each other 24/7. Remember that oxygen feeds the fire and don't we all want a fiery relationship in some way or another?!
5. Know That Apologies Come in Their Own Time after Fights
We all fight in relationships. It's even healthy to have difference and disagreements but it is smothering when one person keeps demanding an apology. "Love means never having to say you're sorry." Do we all remember this quote from the movie "Love Story?" Know that it can be very antagonizing for someone to keep demanding apologies for certain actions. Know that an apology will come from that person when they have accepted that one is needed.
6. Remember That Love is Patience
We must understand that when we do not hear from our significant others right away, for example when they were supposed to call and didn't, or they are not on time for something, to be kind and patient. It's not a problem until you make it one and they may have a very legitimate excuse.
7. What is Meant to Happen, Will Happen
The best way to go about your future is with positive acts and positive thinking. Smothering goes against these two beliefs. Remember why you are in love, trust in yourself and in your partner.