Have you ever received a flirty text message from your and stared at the screen wondering what to do or say next? If you're new at text flirting, it may be a little scary or awkward but like all things, practice makes perfect, so here's your big chance to dive in the text flirt pool! Text flirting is simple and fun once you get the hang of it. Check out the tips below for bringing your best game to text flirts; whether you're an amateur or a seasoned pro, it's never too late to pick up tips.
1. Send a Picture
This maybe the oldest trick in the book, but that's probably because it works so well! Sending your sweetie a picture of you will get him to thinking about you. Make it sweet, crazy, cute, or even a little sexy; just stay away from the nudes because the embarrassment from that will last much longer than the phone you're holding in your hands to send it. A picture of your gorgeous smiling face is enough to satisfy your man and spark his curiosity of where the convo will go next.
2. Cheesy Pick-up Lines
Ya gotta love cheesy pick up lines for text flirting! Especially when it's with someone who already knows your quirky sense of humor. Whether they are cutesy or silly, they are sure to bring a smile to your text buddy's face. Some classic *flirty texts to try for him*: "Let's make like fabric softener and snuggle!" "We go together like peanut butter and jelly!" Or even throw out "I love seeing your name pop up on my screen." Something as simple as those will keep the convo flowing and might even get him grinning.
3. Give to Receive
There's no better way to text flirt than to compliment the other person on what you like best about them. It'll show you pay attention and might even result in some even kinder compliments back which will boost your ego. Compliment your man's good looks, his athletic abilities, his personality features, or what he was wearing earlier in the day. Men love to be adored and admired by women, so heap on the praise! Just don't overdo it! There's a fine line between appreciating compliments and sucking up.
4. Short and Sweet
When text flirting, always remember this one little tip: It's a good idea to keep things short and sweet. Men aren't usually interested in reading a book on their screen, nor do they have the time and patience to sit there and type you a four page response back about how wonderful you are to them. Save that for the face to face convos and keep your flirting short, sweet and to the point. You can draw it out, texting for hours at a time or even all day. As long as you keep your texts short, you will keep his interest in continuing the conversation!
5. Texting versus Sexting
Remember the fine line between compliments and sucking up? Well there is another line to remember when you're text flirting: Watch how far it goes! Sexting is just a hop skip and a jump away from flirting (and for minors it's actually illegal in some states!) Sexting versus texting is a broad subject and doesn't have really a true definition to most, but the point is, while there may be no harm in flirting by text, there's a lot of harm in sexting.
6. Spell Check! Spell Check! Spell Check!
Like Beetlejuice, you've got the say it three times to make it stick. If there's one thing that drives me absolutely bonkers about texting in general, it's when people don't know how to spell right. Throw in misspelling in *flirty texts messages* and I am O-U-T! It's hard to be in a flirty mood when the person you are texting is sending messages that you have to decode to understand! It's one thing when teens do it with the use of emojis and such, but for you adults out there... it's a big *text flirting* no-no! Keep your flirting mature.
7. Text Flirting for Married Couples
Flirting with your significant other shouldn't end just because there's rings on it. It helps keep the honey in honeymoon, and the spark in the love life! This is the one instance where sexting might be appropriate-but remember, you don't want someone to oversee your pics or sexts while your SO is at work. (Acca-awkward) And you can still have fun with good old flirting even without it. Liven things up with a little text flirting every now and then and who knows where it might go when they get home!
8. Don't Lose Yourself
No matter what you do when text flirting, remember to stay true to YOU. Don't try to say things uncharacteristic of you. Put some of your own style into your messages whether it be crazy, spunky, spontaneous, silly or romantic, make it uniquely yours. He will appreciate that more than anything, and you will feel good about yourself for being able to make him feel good!
9. Invitations Are a Fun Flare
One really fun thing to do through texting is to create "invitations." You can invite your sweetheart to do anything through a text and keep it fun and lighthearted. Here's a few "invitation" ideas to *try when flirty texting him*: "You, me, pizza and Star Wars. My place. Tonight. Be there or be square!" or something more sweet like "One evening walk under the stars with the lovely (insert your name) tomorrow evening at 9 pm. Care to join?" or go one step further and try "Hey how about you and me head over to see the new movie tonight after work? I've already got the tickets ;)"
10. Embrace Emojis
Some people can find emojis really annoying, but they can be helpful when you're trying to flirt. Why not throw in a winky face ;) or even just a smile :) ? If you're really comfortable you can even throw in a kiss. The emojis can help to get across the fact that you're flirting, which could be completely missed in the message itself because it's just the other person reading. Using emojis will definitely get the message across or even add some extra emphasis on your flirty words.
11. Choose Your Words Carefully
Okay so this isn't really an idea persay, but it is an important tip to remember when flirting via text. Text flirting is a lot of fun, but the problem with texting is that fact that you can't exactly convey tone (see emoji use above). Make sure that all of the words you chose can be easily understood as a flirty message and not taken too seriously. It's not hard and the worst thing ever would be if your crush or whoever you're texting misunderstands you and take what you're saying the wrong way. Simply put... Think before you send!
12. Cutely Tease Them
Just like if you're flirting in person, you can tease your crush in texts and still be flirting. If they tell you they're watching a cheesy movie or have been doing the same activity for hours, just make a joke or even throw a tongue sticking out emoji in there. Ending in "haha" or "lol" will help convey you're kidding too. Hopefully this will open up a door where they can tease you back and you two will have fun teasing each other.
13. Don't Be Too Eager
Eventually the conversation is going to wind down, don't be the one trying to find reasons to keep it going! This could come across as thirsty and nobody wants to be looked at like that. Perhaps try to steer the convo off the flirting course so it seems like you're actually interested in what they're doing and not just flirting all the time. You could always go out on a limb and try to meet up to keep the flirting going in person, or even pick up the phone and have a late night heart to heart convo. That way everything isn't always texting and you can maybe try to build more if you're currently just in a flirtationship.
14. Don't Drunk Flirt
Unless this person is someone you've been dating for a while and you feel completely sure that your flirting won't come across in a negative way, avoid the drunk texts and flirting at all costs. The kind of flirting that comes out when you're under the influence is probably not the kind that sober you would appreciate. This could be very embarrassing or make you look little too easy depending on what you say. When you're under the influence try your hardest not to text flirt; because chances are you'll be annoyed with yourself the next morning when you re-read the messages.
In the digital age we live in, you no longer have to pass notes in class or wink at someone from across the room... You now have your means of flirting and communication right at your fingertips. Flirtationships are all the rage in this "Netflix and Chill" era so I assure you, flirting in texts isn't that hard. You will have tons of fun and may even find yourself to be a bit bolder then what you are face to face which might shock both you and your texting partner.