Sometimes, you just need a wingwoman. Nope, not a wingman – women kind of do it better. We have this intuition, this nuance, we know how to hold it down for our single friends when they're out on the prowl. I find myself doing this a lot for my single friends, male and female, so I figured, why not share what works for me? If you're going out with a group of singles who just want to mingle, remember this advice and help out your friends a little. Maybe you'll help create a love match!
1 Don't Get Wasted
You can't be a good wingwoman if you're wasted – you have to be on point to help your friends with the hookup! Getting drunk also makes it that much harder to keep an eye on your pals – you want to keep them safe from creepers and Felipes, you know.
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2 Remember, You Are There to Help Your Girl
Or your boy, of course, because you can play wingwoman for a guy friend as well. Just keep your eyes on the prize.
3 Encourage Your Girlfriends to Be Confident
Let them know that they are queens, that they are smart, funny, witty, kind, and beautiful. Let them know that they're worth getting to know, whether it's for a night or a lifetime – whatever they're looking for.
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Remember, self-assurance can be contagious; by believing in them, you help to ignite the spark of confidence in your friends. Remind them of their strength and intellect at every opportunity. Celebrate their successes, no matter how small, and always lift them up when they're down. When they shine, you shine – together, you're an unstoppable team spreading that girl power magic wherever you go.
4 Just Go with It
Play a part. Be whatever your friend needs … even if it means spending an hour talking to the most boring person on earth.
5 You've Got to Be at Their Beck and Call
Your friends need you. In wingman parlance (gag), you may even need to jump on a grenade.
6 … Just for the Evening
It's not forever, though. Just for the night.
7 Don't Be Too Aggressive
As a wingwoman, you have to walk a tightrope. It's a delicate balance, but coming off aggressively can ruin the night in an instant.
8 Be Cool in Front of the Person She's Hitting on
Even if you think they look like a bag of smashed butt holes.
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Keep your composure and remember that your friend’s tastes might differ from yours. It’s all about her choices and making sure she shines. So flash that winning smile and engage in the banter. Remember, your role is to uplift and support, not to judge the cover of her potential romance novel. Even if you're secretly not a fan, just keep the conversation flowing and be the best sidekick she could ask for.
9 Don't Butt in, Unless Your Girl Wants You to
It's best if you devise some signs for each other before you go out for the night. Yep, a good wingwoman will take the time to craft a secret language.
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Establishing discrete signals can be a game-changer when it comes to navigating social situations. If she catches the eye of someone she's interested in, she might give you the pre-arranged "I'm good" glance. Conversely, if she's uncomfortable and needs an immediate escape, she could use the "SOS" signal. The key is to remain attuned to her cues, ensuring you're ready to step in or back off, depending on what your girlfriend needs. After all, your role is to support her through the thick and thin of the mingling game.
10 Know when You Need to Shut up
You'll know, especially as you take on the role more and more often. It's an instinct.
11 Also, Know when You Need to Walk Away
So is this – especially if you have a friend who likes hooking up with d-bags. It happens.
12 Know How to Handle His Friends
This is your jam. This is your job. This is what you have to do.
13 … Even if His Friends Are Annoying
Especially with the guy or girl's friends are annoying. That's when your friend needs you the most, in fact.
14 Encourage Your Friend to Push past Her Comfort Zone
Not so much that she's actively uncomfortable, obviously, but definitely do encourage your friends to step out with confidence.
15 Stop Other People from Approaching if She Finds Someone She Likes
Don't let anyone bird dog your friend! Make sure she's protected from interlopers.
16 Encourage a Dance or Two
This will also give you a small break, which will probably be quite welcome.
17 Make Sure She is Safe if She Does Leave with Him
Always. Always, always, always – and don't let her leave if she doesn't have control of her faculties.
How do you help your friends when you go out together?
