The Ultimate Guidebook to Being the Best Wingwoman ...

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The Ultimate Guidebook to Being the Best Wingwoman ...

Wingwoman duties are no small feat, believe me. If you're anything like me, you've probably had the exhilarating yet daunting task of helping a friend navigate the dating world. Whether it's offering on-point advice, creating opportunities for that flawless meet-cute, or simply being the ultimate hype-woman, being a excellent wingwoman is practically an art form. And in today's ever-evolving dating scene of 2024, the role of a wingwoman is more crucial than ever.

The first rule of being a fabulous wingwoman is to know your friend's type. Yes, I know, easier said than done, but trust me, it's the bedrock of all your future endeavors. Whether they're into artsy indie types or prefer someone with a more corporate vibe, understanding their dating preferences will help you identify those perfect match opportunities in any social setting. It’s all part of the essential prep work—a cornerstone of any successful wingwoman strategy.

Another crucial aspect is being a pro at reading social cues and body language. Ever been on a night out and noticed your friend continually glancing at their phone as if it contains the secrets of the universe? Well, that's probably because they are not having the time of their life. Your intervention could turn things around entirely. A casual yet strategic intro is your time to shine. Welcome to the fine art of the well-timed introduction strategies.

Thinking about a successful wingwoman outing, let's talk wardrobe. Never underestimate the power of coordinated outfits. You’re not just a sidekick; you’re the dynamic duo! Think of memorable pairings like Batman and Robin but in the swanky nightclub scene. A killer outfit not only boosts your confidence but serves as a conversation starter. And if anyone questions it, just tell them it’s the official 2024 friendship uniform.

And let’s talk tech for a sec. Dating apps are changing the scene way more than we realize. We're all veterans of the brave new world of Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, making it simpler than ever to facilitate those match-made connections. My own success stories (and some near-misses) come from navigating these digital love-hunting grounds with finesse.

Finally, add a dash of humor to the mix. Trust me, the ability to diffuse awkward moments with a joke is the secret sauce of stellar wingwoman-ing. Whether it's poking fun at terrible dance moves or serenading drunk karaoke, laughter seals the deal.

So, ladies (and gents), prepare yourself for a deep dive into the art of preparation, techniques, style, and modern dating tactics. In 2024, being the best wingwoman isn't just a role; it's a lifestyle.

1 Don't Get Wasted

You can't be a good wingwoman if you're wasted – you have to be on point to help your friends with the hookup! Getting drunk also makes it that much harder to keep an eye on your pals – you want to keep them safe from creepers and Felipes, you know.

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2 Remember, You Are There to Help Your Girl

Or your boy, of course, because you can play wingwoman for a guy friend as well. Just keep your eyes on the prize.

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Your mission is to boost your friend's confidence, steer conversations in their favor, and perhaps gently push them into the spotlight. Remember, it's not about you hogging the limelight. Be a cheerleader, but keep it subtle; you're the secret sauce to a savory night out. If you see your friend struggling to make a connection, don't hesitate to jump in with an anecdote that showcases their awesomeness. Your role is critical, yet discreet – be their safety net, not the star of the show.

3 Encourage Your Girlfriends to Be Confident

Let them know that they are queens, that they are smart, funny, witty, kind, and beautiful. Let them know that they're worth getting to know, whether it's for a night or a lifetime – whatever they're looking for.

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Remember, self-assurance can be contagious; by believing in them, you help to ignite the spark of confidence in your friends. Remind them of their strength and intellect at every opportunity. Celebrate their successes, no matter how small, and always lift them up when they're down. When they shine, you shine – together, you're an unstoppable team spreading that girl power magic wherever you go.

4 Just Go with It

Play a part. Be whatever your friend needs … even if it means spending an hour talking to the most boring person on earth.

5 You've Got to Be at Their Beck and Call

Your friends need you. In wingman parlance (gag), you may even need to jump on a grenade.

6 … Just for the Evening

It's not forever, though. Just for the night.

7 Don't Be Too Aggressive

As a wingwoman, you have to walk a tightrope. It's a delicate balance, but coming off aggressively can ruin the night in an instant.

8 Be Cool in Front of the Person She's Hitting on

Even if you think they look like a bag of smashed butt holes.

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Keep your composure and remember that your friend’s tastes might differ from yours. It’s all about her choices and making sure she shines. So flash that winning smile and engage in the banter. Remember, your role is to uplift and support, not to judge the cover of her potential romance novel. Even if you're secretly not a fan, just keep the conversation flowing and be the best sidekick she could ask for.

9 Don't Butt in, Unless Your Girl Wants You to

It's best if you devise some signs for each other before you go out for the night. Yep, a good wingwoman will take the time to craft a secret language.

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Establishing discrete signals can be a game-changer when it comes to navigating social situations. If she catches the eye of someone she's interested in, she might give you the pre-arranged "I'm good" glance. Conversely, if she's uncomfortable and needs an immediate escape, she could use the "SOS" signal. The key is to remain attuned to her cues, ensuring you're ready to step in or back off, depending on what your girlfriend needs. After all, your role is to support her through the thick and thin of the mingling game.

10 Know when You Need to Shut up

You'll know, especially as you take on the role more and more often. It's an instinct.

11 Also, Know when You Need to Walk Away

So is this – especially if you have a friend who likes hooking up with d-bags. It happens.

12 Know How to Handle His Friends

This is your jam. This is your job. This is what you have to do.

13 … Even if His Friends Are Annoying

Especially with the guy or girl's friends are annoying. That's when your friend needs you the most, in fact.

14 Encourage Your Friend to Push past Her Comfort Zone

Not so much that she's actively uncomfortable, obviously, but definitely do encourage your friends to step out with confidence.

15 Stop Other People from Approaching if She Finds Someone She Likes

Don't let anyone bird dog your friend! Make sure she's protected from interlopers.

16 Encourage a Dance or Two

This will also give you a small break, which will probably be quite welcome.

17 Make Sure She is Safe if She Does Leave with Him

Always. Always, always, always – and don't let her leave if she doesn't have control of her faculties.

How do you help your friends when you go out together?

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