Most of us have raised our children, had one or two marriages accomplished, know what we want and think it's our aha moment to go online and find a friend for dating and companionship or a relationship…………….wrong!
Speaking from lots of experience and the long conversations with my diverse group of girlfriends this is what we have found in the online dating world:
1. The More Attractive You Are the Less Chances You Have…
Men are intimidated babies, turns out.
2. Forget It if You Are in Business
Same goes for accomplished businesswomen. Who knew?
3. If Your Not Slender or Athletic ...
Your hits are numbered, but you will get the 80 year olds.
4. You Start Conversing with Someone and That’s Exactly What It Will Be…
A “pen pal” … NOT! For some reason these men just want someone to talk to never ask to meet but they are very good at asking for your number and then texting you…..endlessly…good morning 14 days in a row. After a bit of that I tell them to find a “pen pal”.
5. How about the Ones That do Want to See You
And then say “lets hang out” or “are you making dinner”…..are they kidding me?
6. Now You Finally Get a Proper Date ...
You have drinks or dinner and before you have swallowed your last bite of food they say “want to go somewhere else” when I respond “sure” they say “how bout your place”??? Now it’s a hook up?? Ugh!!! Kill me……….
7. Now You Finally Meet Someone Who Says He is Old Fashioned ...
Just as you asked for in your profile. You have 2 dinner dates and here it is....”are you ever inviting me back to your place”? Ever?? Its been two dates? I say I want to take my time and get to know someone and he says “so do I”.....he seems like a potential so I don’t want to blow it by giving him the “milk for free”.
We have 3 more dinner dates he talks about doing all kinds of things together, I really like him and agree. On the 7th date it happens…..guess what?
Yup…..never called again. The poison pen letter I sent to him is too crude to publish here….
8. I Saved the Best for Last: I Got That Gut Feeling That I Have Met the One!
Sounds funny at 56 to say that but I did. He is in my hometown of Boston which I visit for business several times a year. We literally talk on the phone every day for three months until I visit.
I meet him and instantly knew it…we have dinner, went elsewhere had a wonderful nite. He and I both verbalized our feelings. He asked me to stay with him for the weekend.
Against my better judgement and going strictly with my heart, I agree. When I tell you we cooked together (both being foodies), we took our dogs to the beach (I fly with mine), we walked, talked, watched movies, laughed our heads off and had the absolute best sex eva!!! (That says a lot for me because I am not inexperienced) ha ha.
As it approaches time to leave and go back to the place I am staying I sense a strangeness. I will tell you at this age my intuition is spot on. I ask him what's wrong, he says: nothing.
Go ahead ask me….did I hear from him again? Nope! I was literally devastated. I didn’t recover for months and I am one tough broad! I confronted him and he said: “you're just too fancy for me”… your clothing, lifestyle etc., you even dress your dog!!!!
9. Are You Kidding Me? after 3 Blissful Days He Decides That?
What transpired after that I could never repeat….what I can tell you is I told him maybe he should elevate himself and find a pair of jeans that doesn’t show his ass crack when he bends over. That was the nicest thing I said. I did pull a “partial” Glen Close in that movie with Michael Douglas and enjoyed every second…scared him straight…maybe he will think twice before he does this to another women.
Well its been interesting and educational, every month I say I am taking my profile down but I never do. I guess I am a hopeless romantic thinking someday I will open my computer and see someone that sparks my interest and he will be “the one”. I don’t even know if I really want “the one” again…
After 6 engagements and three marriages in my life wouldn't you think I would be happy with me and my dog and my wonderful girlfriends?
I have come to realize regardless of our ages and what we have been through we all want a man that really loves us and has our back, experience all the things that love does to us…thank goodness I have a very strong faith and am a firm believer in fate; that what is meant to be…. will be…. or won't be.
I am good with that!