Can relationships work and both couples be happy? Do we set enough time aside to make sure the relationship is working? Do we help it evolve and grow? Is it possible to have a happy and healthy relationship in this day and age? Experts think it can happen if each person puts in some effort.
There are thousands of happy couples in the world. Their relationships are very strong and this makes us wonder how it is done. If you were to ask them, they might tell you that happiness doesn’t come naturally. It doesn’t matter the amount of time you have been together, you must make an investment if it is going to last. You have to put in some hard work and make a commitment to developing it. Both partners have to put effort into it or it will fall apart.
Most couples who have happy relationships that have lasted for many years know that they only have a few hours each day to work on it. There are limited hours in every day, so both parties have to get in the habit of dedicating time to each other. Most couples say the few hours right before bed is the best time to spend with each other. The small stuff that you might think is insignificant that you do right before going to bed are what make a relationship stronger. These minutes right before going to sleep make the biggest difference and can make the relationship stronger, help it evolve, and make it last.
Here are some bedtime habits that couples can do together before they get ready for bed to help strengthen their relationship:
1. Leave Worries and Stress out of the Bedroom
Couples that don’t talk about their stressful day and their financial worries while getting ready for bed are more intimate and happier. This shouldn’t be a surprise since stress is a mood killer. You and your partner need to support each other in all matters but leave the worries and stress outside. The bedroom needs to be a place that is sacred and full of positivity and love.
2. Resolve All Arguments
Everybody has always told you to never be angry when going to bed. This is very true. If the anger comes from unresolved arguments, figure out a way to compromise on the issues that caused the argument. Don’t allow the bad feelings to take over. They might blow up at the wrong time and place and it will ruin the relationship.
3. Go to Bed Together
This might sound a bit odd but it is comforting to fall asleep in someone’s arms. When you can, work on your schedules so you both can head to bed together.
4. Give Each Other Complements
Do you remember when you looked forward to pillow talk? People who have been in a relationship for a while have a tendency to stop saying nice things about one another. Time can be an enemy for a relationship. Take the time when you are getting ready for bed to give your significant other compliments and you might get some in return. Tell them how deeply you are in love with them and how much they mean to you. Tell them that they complete you. You might surprise them and make their day and yours, too.
5. Begin a Routine That You’ll Both Love
It might be anything; you just have to follow it through. It gives you both something to think about to make getting ready for bed more exciting. It might be giving each other back rubs or foot rubs. It will be something you both think about all day and look forward to before going to sleep.
6. Remember to Talk
You might go through an entire day without talking to your partner. Start a habit of talking to each other before your day ends. Make the conversations deep and meaningful in the one place that is sacred to both of you, your bedroom. Let yourself be open and honest. This room is a room where you can feel safe and secure.
7. No Cell Phones, Laptops, or Television
If you can make the bedroom a zone that is free from electronics, your bedtime routine will become a lot better. You won’t have any distractions and you will be free to enjoy each other more.
8. Cuddling is the Best
There are times when you don’t need words. You just need a few minutes of intimacy. It's amazing how much romance can make everything feel wonderful. Your relationship is going to gain many benefits from these intimate moments. It will soon be stronger than ever before.
9. No Arguing
Anything that might turn into a fight is forbidden before going to bed. All the confrontational or controversial topics can wait until another time.
10. No Smoking or Drinking
Scientists have proven that nicotine and alcohol need to stay out of the bedroom. They are nasty habits and should be avoided. They can bother your sleeping habits and ruin a good night’s sleep. Try your best to stay away from these things before bed. If you can manage to do this, you will feel rested and refreshed when you wake up each morning.