Things to Know About Love can be found all over the internet, but they aren't centered around teens. For all you teens out there, I know that there are tons of things to know about love that should be focused around you. Well, I got your back, I've got the top 8 things to know about love when you're a teenager! After all, not all of the same rules apply right?
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1. A Breakup Should Be Final
When you're dealing with teen relationships, typically there is a lot of breaking up and getting back together. When you break up, it should be something that's pretty final. Ladies, I know it might be hard to do that, but trust me, if you are broken up, it's probably for a reason. Who knows, maybe later on down the line, when you are both a little more mature, you'll end up together!
2. Don't Assume
Just because a guy smiles at you, it doesn't mean that he loves you. You want to make sure that you know, for sure that a guy is interested in you before just assuming that he is. After all, wouldn't it be embarrassing if you confessed your love for him and he didn't feel the same way?
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3. Sex is Not Love
When it comes to teenager, ladies, sometimes sex does come about when you love someone, but sex doesn't equal love. If you haven't had sex for the first time, make sure that you save yourself until someone you really love comes along. A lot of times, a lot of girls in high school believe that sex = love and trust me, it doesn't. This is definitely one of the things to know about love if you're a teenager.
4. Love Isn't Manipulative
When you're a teenager and you haven't had nearly as much experience as someone in their twenties, it's easy to be manipulated and to have manipulations in your relationship. One thing to remember about love girls is that it is never manipulative. If a guy really loves you, he doesn't need to manipulate you in any way!
5. Love Doesn't Have Ultimatums
If your guy is constantly trying to get you away from your friends or away from your family for love, that isn't a love-filled relationship. No guy that loves you should ever give you an ultimatum such as 'if you love me, you won't hang out with your friends', it isn't right. This is definitely one of the things to know about love when you're a teenager, as teenage guys can pull this a lot!
6. Romantic Love Feelings Can Fade
Let's say you have a huge crush on a guy and you've had it for almost three out of the four years of school. Let's say that on year four, you finally start to have crushes on other guys and like your original crush just as a friend. It happens and it's nobody's fault at all!
7. Love Shouldn't Hurt
It's easy in high school to fall in love. One thing to note about love is that it shouldn't heard. Love can be hard sometimes, especially if you're working through a fight, but if you find yourself constantly being hurt by the one you're in love with, there might be something wrong!
8. Lust Doesn't Equal Love
Finally ladies, this is the last thing to know about love when you're a teenager, is that lust does not equal love. Just because you might want to have sex with a guy, doesn't mean your automatically in love. Keep that in mind ladies, I know it's hard to keep the two separate!
As you can see, there are tons of different things to know about love when you're a teenager! These are just the top 8. So ladies, what are some of the other things to know about love when your a teen that you wish you knew? Do you have any tips for all the teens out there? Share 'em!
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brandee: soo i have a bf and we just did it it was my first time and he was like i love u and i said i love soo everything was ok and he just stop talking to me like we been going out for a year like y isnt he talking to me is he being a ass or what is going on with him
Anon: I have a bit of a problem. There is a guy that I like at my school. We were in the school play together, and I have to say that we were pretty good friends. He's got an awesome sense of humour, and we spent, in total over 100 hours in play practice, so I got to know him pretty well. However, on the night of the second production of the play (there were 3) on of his friends overheard that I liked him, and so he told the guy that I like. That night, he had to put his cat down because it was very ill. The next day, I found out that his friend had told him. My friend went to talk to him, since his friend claimed that with a lot of stress and sadness because of his cat he had forgotten. My friend finally found out that he did indeed remember. Half an hour before the show, I lost my voice (I was a fairly crucial character) and I got a huge migraine. Another girl had Advil, and since the guy that I like was in charge of getting everything ready, he went along to get some. I tried my best to walk quickly as to avoid conversation (it felt sort of awkward), and he went up to me and asked if I was avoiding him. I said that I wasn't (even though this was a total lie) and so he asked for a hug (he's just that sort of a person) and so we hugged awkwardly. I talked to my friend, and she said that he did indeed remember, and that she was going to make up some elaborate story about how I didn't like him and it was a lie. He's fairly smart so I knew that that would never work, so I said "I don't really care. Whatever" Meaning that I didn't care that he knew that I liked him (I had a huge migraine, and the show had started, and I was due on in less than ten minutes, so I gave up and just waved her off). However, she took it to mean that I didn't care about him, and she went and yelled at him. She said that I didn't care abut him anymore, and all the while he was still depressed about the death of his cat and stressed because he was under a lot of pressure (he had to get everything ready for the play and the director was in a pretty bad mood). My friend reported back to me, and I got super mad because she had been so mean to him and had twisted my words. I demanded that she apologized to him at once, and then suggested that perhaps she should stop meddling (she loves to get involved in other people's business). However, she didn't apologize but just told him that I had meant that I didn't care that he knew. All throughout the play, he kept wishing me good luck and saying that I was doing fine, so he didn't really act like it was awkward. However, to me, it felt weird. At the cast party later on, it didn't feel any different, but on my playbook he signed (he had the play pamplet things that everyone in the cast signed) that "Teymor is a sh**" (Teymor is another guy in the cast that had tried to kiss me and then slapped me two days before). Today at school, my friends tried to make me talk to him, but it still felt really weird to me and so my friends had to literally drag me over to him. In the end I ran off and didn't talk, but the guy that I like just looked at me weird and asked my friend (the one that had meddled) why I had said something about it being awkward Today at school, my friends tried to make me talk to him, but it still felt really weird to me and so my friends had to literally drag me over to him. In the end I ran off and didn't talk, but the guy that I like just looked at me weird and asked my friend (the one that had meddled) why I had said something about it being awkward, and he claimed that it wasn't awkward. Now I regret having acted weird in front of him (my friends dragged me through the snow while I struggled and squirmed and protested) and I think that he probably doesn't even like me as a friend now. What can I do? P.S. He also got interrogated by my friend on the third night of the performance, and when my friend kept asking if he liked me, he said "I don't know" and changed the subject. Also, he kept asking my friend if I really did like him. Apart from that, about a week before this he asked me if he could tell all his friends from New York that we had gone out, since I am Spanish and he wanted to boast that he'd dated a Spanish girl. He was probably joking though, but he also kept complaining (also about a week before) about how the guy always has to pay for dates, isn't allowed to slap a girl, etc. etc. and that the guy always has to ask the girl out. I think he just wants to be friends, but he's really hard to get. However he's cute and funny and all, and I find it hard to believe that he'd like me. Besides, he's moving back to New York at the end of the year (in fact, I am moving to NY too, in 2-3 years, and the places where we're moving are only about ten minutes away), so I don't think he'd even be interested in a relationship. My friends want me to talk to him, but I don't know what to say. I just feel that things are really strange. Please help me!
Anonymous: Kiss as many of the frogs as you want just save yourself for the Prince when you are much older and out of high school. Always remember...THERE ARE NO SECRETS IN HIGH SCHOOL! Eventually all you do becomes public knowledge. No guy will respect you if you don't respect yourself.
Anonymous: My tip: You don't have to date in high school if you don't know anyone you want to date.
Anonymous: My parents have been happily married for 21 years and when they were in high school they were the epitome of an on-and-off couple.
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