Losing your virginity is a big deal, so it should be treated as such. You don't want to sleep with someone and then regret it a few days, or even years, later. It's best to wait until you're completely ready, so that you're comfortable with the situation. However, having sex isn't going to change you as a person. In fact, here are a few other things that won't change when you lose your virginity:
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1. Your Body
If you haven't already broken your hymen by playing sports, then your "cherry is going to pop" when you have sex for the first time. However, other than that, your body isn't going to change at all. Your vagina acts like a rubber band, so it isn't going to become loose after you have sex. Your body will look the same as it always did, so there's no reason to be afraid of "ruining" it.
2. Your Relationship Status
You should never sleep with someone in the hopes that they'll end up dating you after the fact. Unfortunately, some men are only interested in sex. While sleeping with a guy could potentially change your relationship, it probably won't. So don't assume that he'll suddenly love you if you take your clothes off for him. If he doesn't like you before you sleep together, he won't like you after you sleep together.
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3. Your Value
You might've been taught that pure women are more valuable than sexually active women. However, losing your virginity doesn't make you more or less attractive, and it certainly doesn't make you more or less valuable. You're still the same person, so your value hasn't gone up or down.
4. The Way Others View You
You're not going to be shunned by society after having sex. You're not going to become the most popular kid in school after having sex, either. After all, no one will even know that you're sexually active unless you or your partner tells them. That means you'll be viewed the same way as you always were.
5. Your Feelings
After you have sex with someone, your feelings for them probably won't change. If anything, they'll end up becoming more intense. So if you want to sleep with a guy in order to get over him, it's not a great idea. If you liked him before you had sex, you'll only end up liking him even more after you have sex.
6. Your Morals
As long as you're completely ready (and old enough) to deal with the repercussions of having sex, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. Being sexually active doesn't mean that you're immoral. Stealing, cheating, and using drugs are all worse crimes. If having mature, protected sex is the worst thing that you're doing, you can give yourself a pat on the back.
7. Your Personality
Having sex might boost your confidence, but it's not going to change you into an entirely different person. You're still you. So don't expect your life to change after sleeping with someone. For the most part, things will stay exactly the same as they always were.
If you're not 100% ready to have sex, then don't let anyone pressure you into doing it. But if you've found the right man for you and believe that you're mature enough to handle all of the things that sex entails, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. What do you think is the most ridiculous lie that women are told about losing their virginity?
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Devanshi: Double standards!! But there are these ill people who still believe as if virginity defines purity of a woman and such nonsensical things
Sara: Yes my point is that it DOES end up harming others! People do horrible things that they wouldn't normally do under the influence, and if you really want to believe that people can just do it occasionally without any consequences, you are being naive. Everyone I know who is either dead or in jail, started out just "having a good time" the weekend warrior thing even went on for years and then lo and behold, it caught up with them in the end. And I'm not saying your friends aren't good people, that's just the problem, drugs will take a great person and turn them into someone you don't even know. Anyone who has dealt with real drug addiction usually feels just as I do. I know people who have committed murder, sold their children and stolen from their own family to get a fix. Happy for you that you haven't seen the dark side, but that is reality.
Annabelle: 4 isn't true my best friend lost her virginity and some how everyone found out and they harassed about it so much that she moved schools
Alyx: Consensually *
Sapna: Good article pointing both the sides ; JP well said
Skylar: If you and your partner are mature enough then no others will not know, but for some younger people the maturity is not always there and when people find out they may label you as something you are not so just make sure you are with the right person
JP: Taylor, I respect your perspective. Tough to tell in a written post how you intended "procreative" in quotes. Hopefully, you are respectful of those who save sex for marriage and are open to life as part of the union between a husband and wife. Natural Family Planning has proven to be as, or more effective than many forms of birth control, therefore, overpopulation would not be an issue. If one is patient and delays sexual gratification until later in a relationship, birth control is not necessary to prevent STD's when one is with a like-minded monogamous partner. Our society has put way too high a premium on sex in relationships. The building blocks of trust, reciprocity, intellectual, spiritual and emotional intimacy are more often than not, necessary for building successful long-term relationships before a couple becomes sexually active.
elxzxbxthpxrtxr: This is a good article! Any person who wants to be sexually active for the first time should read it. It's important to know that you're not a bad person for having sex and that as long it's mature, protected and consensual, sex can be a wonderful thing.
Jane: @Shahrzad relationships are not built on sex alone. If they are, there won't be any foundation. I am of the Christian faith & I believe that if we do what Christ commands us to do, He'll bless us with a partner that we're sexually compatible with.
Shilan92: *Culture
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