Losing your virginity is a big deal, so it should be treated as such. You don't want to sleep with someone and then regret it a few days, or even years, later. It's best to wait until you're completely ready, so that you're comfortable with the situation. However, having sex isn't going to change you as a person. In fact, here are a few other things that won't change when you lose your virginity:
1. Your Body
If you haven't already broken your hymen by playing sports, then your "cherry is going to pop" when you have sex for the first time. However, other than that, your body isn't going to change at all. Your vagina acts like a rubber band, so it isn't going to become loose after you have sex. Your body will look the same as it always did, so there's no reason to be afraid of "ruining" it.
2. Your Relationship Status
You should never sleep with someone in the hopes that they'll end up dating you after the fact. Unfortunately, some men are only interested in sex. While sleeping with a guy could potentially change your relationship, it probably won't. So don't assume that he'll suddenly love you if you take your clothes off for him. If he doesn't like you before you sleep together, he won't like you after you sleep together.
3. Your Value
You might've been taught that pure women are more valuable than sexually active women. However, losing your virginity doesn't make you more or less attractive, and it certainly doesn't make you more or less valuable. You're still the same person, so your value hasn't gone up or down.
4. The Way Others View You
You're not going to be shunned by society after having sex. You're not going to become the most popular kid in school after having sex, either. After all, no one will even know that you're sexually active unless you or your partner tells them. That means you'll be viewed the same way as you always were.
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5. Your Feelings
After you have sex with someone, your feelings for them probably won't change. If anything, they'll end up becoming more intense. So if you want to sleep with a guy in order to get over him, it's not a great idea. If you liked him before you had sex, you'll only end up liking him even more after you have sex.
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6. Your Morals
As long as you're completely ready (and old enough) to deal with the repercussions of having sex, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. Being sexually active doesn't mean that you're immoral. Stealing, cheating, and using drugs are all worse crimes. If having mature, protected sex is the worst thing that you're doing, you can give yourself a pat on the back.
7. Your Personality
Having sex might boost your confidence, but it's not going to change you into an entirely different person. You're still you. So don't expect your life to change after sleeping with someone. For the most part, things will stay exactly the same as they always were.
If you're not 100% ready to have sex, then don't let anyone pressure you into doing it. But if you've found the right man for you and believe that you're mature enough to handle all of the things that sex entails, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. What do you think is the most ridiculous lie that women are told about losing their virginity?
Comments
Sara: @Alka: it's obvious that you know very little about drug addiction! With the exception of pot most drug use ends up a disaster both to the person using and the people that love them. I have lost several family members to death, including my mom and friends as well who were all wonderful, loving people before they started using. Drugs will ruin your life in the long run, especially if you think you're immune to them.
Alexa: I think people should wait until they are married. It's supposed to be a special moment to cherish with your partner after you get married. And you don't loose it to someone who might just be using you.
Sapna: Good article pointing both the sides ; JP well said
Shilan92: *Culture
Jessica: Agree with Sara and Devanshi
Celeste: Um no
Sara: I am still a virgin because I do want it to be with the person I love. I would rather wait then let some jerk hurt me. But it is a very personal decision for every woman.
Annabelle: 4 isn't true my best friend lost her virginity and some how everyone found out and they harassed about it so much that she moved schools
Jane: We should wait until we are married to have sex. Aside from all the reasons you listed, there are soul ties, STDs, & unwanted pregnancies. Sorry AWS, but we shouldn't post these kind of articles where we know teenagers are reading often.
alka: Using drugs shouldnt be considered a "crime" as long as you dont hurt anyone. It is a personal decision one makes. Really think before you write.
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