Facts about Losing Your Virginity for Girls Who Are Worried It Will Change Them ...

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Facts about Losing Your Virginity for Girls Who Are Worried It Will Change Them ...
By Holly • Aug 6, 2020 MD

Losing your virginity is a big deal, so it should be treated as such. You don't want to sleep with someone and then regret it a few days, or even years, later. It's best to wait until you're completely ready, so that you're comfortable with the situation. However, having sex isn't going to change you as a person. In fact, here are a few other things that won't change when you lose your virginity:

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1. Your Body

If you haven't already broken your hymen by playing sports, then your "cherry is going to pop" when you have sex for the first time. However, other than that, your body isn't going to change at all. Your vagina acts like a rubber band, so it isn't going to become loose after you have sex. Your body will look the same as it always did, so there's no reason to be afraid of "ruining" it.

2. Your Relationship Status

You should never sleep with someone in the hopes that they'll end up dating you after the fact. Unfortunately, some men are only interested in sex. While sleeping with a guy could potentially change your relationship, it probably won't. So don't assume that he'll suddenly love you if you take your clothes off for him. If he doesn't like you before you sleep together, he won't like you after you sleep together.

3. Your Value

You might've been taught that pure women are more valuable than sexually active women. However, losing your virginity doesn't make you more or less attractive, and it certainly doesn't make you more or less valuable. You're still the same person, so your value hasn't gone up or down.

4. The Way Others View You

You're not going to be shunned by society after having sex. You're not going to become the most popular kid in school after having sex, either. After all, no one will even know that you're sexually active unless you or your partner tells them. That means you'll be viewed the same way as you always were.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Your Feelings

After you have sex with someone, your feelings for them probably won't change. If anything, they'll end up becoming more intense. So if you want to sleep with a guy in order to get over him, it's not a great idea. If you liked him before you had sex, you'll only end up liking him even more after you have sex.

6. Your Morals

As long as you're completely ready (and old enough) to deal with the repercussions of having sex, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. Being sexually active doesn't mean that you're immoral. Stealing, cheating, and using drugs are all worse crimes. If having mature, protected sex is the worst thing that you're doing, you can give yourself a pat on the back.

7. Your Personality

Having sex might boost your confidence, but it's not going to change you into an entirely different person. You're still you. So don't expect your life to change after sleeping with someone. For the most part, things will stay exactly the same as they always were.

If you're not 100% ready to have sex, then don't let anyone pressure you into doing it. But if you've found the right man for you and believe that you're mature enough to handle all of the things that sex entails, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. What do you think is the most ridiculous lie that women are told about losing their virginity?

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  • vivika

    2018-08-30T01:36:39.576Z

    what if you find out he was just using you the whole time
  • JP

    2015-08-12T14:25:46.249Z

    Taylor, I respect your perspective. Tough to tell in a written post how you intended "procreative" in quotes. Hopefully, you are respectful of those who save sex for marriage and are open to life as part of the union between a husband and wife. Natural Family Planning has proven to be as, or more effective than many forms of birth control, therefore, overpopulation would not be an issue. If one is patient and delays sexual gratification until later in a relationship, birth control is not necessary to prevent STD's when one is with a like-minded monogamous partner. Our society has put way too high a premium on sex in relationships. The building blocks of trust, reciprocity, intellectual, spiritual and emotional intimacy are more often than not, necessary for building successful long-term relationships before a couple becomes sexually active.
  • Iehs

    2015-08-10T04:08:43.295Z

    Wow! This needs to be discuss with teens nowadays.
  • Oulichan

    2016-08-26T06:19:14.649Z

    @Jessica your comment is perfect...
  • alka

    2015-08-10T06:25:24.980Z

    Also people are mammals which means we are animals and it is in our animalistic nature to want sex and there is nothing wrong with that no matter what gender you are. Always keep that in mind.
  • Alyx

    2015-08-10T08:46:04.167Z

    I don't have anything against people who do drugs, and have done some myself. But at the end of the day, it is illegal. Whether they choose to or not is not the point, its illegal. If someone chooses to murder it doesn't make it any less of a crime, like I said, yes, it's there choice. But it's still a crime, and it can lead to very serious dangers, including death. The author was simply saying sex is not a bad thing, it's not going to hurt you physically, or in the view of the law (when done consensual you), and drugs and stealing will. You can't go to jail for two adults having consensual sex, but you can go to prison for years for drugs.
  • JP

    2015-08-10T12:49:27.895Z

    Some of these comments wreak of relativism. Ditto with Sara's comments on drug use . . . Using drugs doesn't mean one is a bad person, but it does indicate a weakness in character and self discipline; An indicator of the decay we are currently experiencing in our society. As for #6, being sexually active before marriage IS immoral for all Christians, Jews and Muslims. For those who do not follow a particular faith, data shows that couples who do wait until marriage experience longer and healthier relationships.
  • Isabella

    2015-08-11T13:31:03.411Z

    @Sara exactly, good on you - I waited until I was 20, no stuffing around while I was at school!!
  • Taylor

    2015-08-12T01:20:50.491Z

    Not everyone wants to be "procreative" when we have sex. We don't need an over populated earth JP. Also always remember to use some form of birth control /barrier to protect against pregnancy and STDs !
  • Splashhhh

    2015-08-10T05:40:55.901Z

    Informational!
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