Every break up with a new person is different: a different set of circumstances that come about and come to a head in various different ways. Whilst it isn’t always easy to predict a pattern for the trajectory of the relationship, there is no denying that there are a few certain rules in place that have been set in stone for as long as romance has been a thing! You might not be able to track the ups and downs of different relationships, but you can certainly see similarities in the best ways to deal with a separation. Here are eleven things you should always do when you break up with someone!
Don’t allow yourself to become super demotivated and a hermit. Remember to continue to keep exercising because those endorphins will really come in handy if you are feeling low.
2 Feel Feelings
Don’t push your feelings to the side and ignore them, the only way that you will be able to move on is to address them when they first come to the surface.
3 Self Care
Whatever you need to do to take care of yourself, do it. It might be retail therapy, it might be a social media blackout, whatever it is, do it without worrying about other people’s opinions.
Don’t let yourself get into a physical funk where you haven’t showered or washed or dressed in a long time. That kind of atmosphere will do nothing for your self-worth and confidence after a breakup.
5 No Contact
Abide by the age-old no contact rule. Under no circumstances should you check in with your ex or get in touch with him for anything. It’s a slippery slope.
Make sure that you take plenty of time before you jump back into another relationship again. Reconnect with yourself before you go and connect with someone else again.
7 Thinking Time
Take some time to think about your future and what you want out of it. What’s next for you? Perhaps you want to focus more on your career than romance right now?
8 Pack Away Mementos
Get rid of all of the things that are going to be a constant reminder of your past relationship. Pack away photos and clothes and anything that might be left behind so you can have a fresh start.
9 Get out
Don’t isolate yourself to be miserable, instead spend time with friends and family to help you take your mind off of things.
Say goodbye to the relationship once and for all, don’t keep hold of any notions that things could be revisited in the future because if you have that mindset you will never be able to achieve proper closure.
11 Move on
Don’t put your life on hold for too long. Take the time that you need to recover personally, but don’t let that stretch into a big enough period where you have started to become comfortable in your post-relationship sorrow.