Sometimes, your head and your heart will tell you two totally different things. One of them will urge you to stay with a man that you're madly in love with while the other will tell you to get as far away from him as possible. While love is a strong emotion that's hard to resist, here are a few times when you should listen to your head over your heart:
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1. When He Abuses You
If a man hits you or pushes you, get out of the relationship. It doesn't matter if he loves you. It doesn't matter if he promises to never hurt you again. Hurting you once is one time too many. You can't remain in an abusive relationship, even when that abuse is verbal. You deserve better.
2. When He Cheats on You
Yes, there are some special couples who make their relationships last after cheating on each other. However, the majority of the time, you should dump a cheater as soon as you find out about what he did. If he did it once, he'll do it again. It doesn't matter how much you love him, because he clearly doesn't respect you enough to remain loyal.
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3. When Your Love is Illegal
You can't break the law in order to date a boy. If you have a crush on a teacher who's too old for you or on a student that's too young for you, you can either wait until one of you hits the legal age, or you can forget dating him. You don't want to end up in jail over a fling.
4. When He’s Using You
If it's clear that the boy you're crazy about is only using you for sex, you need to end your arrangement with him. If he won't call you his girlfriend, but he will sleep with you whenever he's in the mood, something is wrong. Don't let him use you, no matter how strongly you feel about him. You're not a sex object.
5. When You Want Different Things from Life
Unfortunately, love isn't enough to sustain a relationship. If you two want to last, you need to have similar plans for your futures. If you want kids, but he doesn't, then one of you is going to end up disappointed. Listen to your head and leave him, so that you can find someone who wants the same things as you do.
6. When You're Hurting Someone You Care about
If hooking up with the cute boy your BFF is crushing on is going to ruin your friendship, you should probably listen to your head over your heart. After all, don't you think your friend is more important than some boy you barely know?
7. When He Makes You More Upset than Happy
Our hearts are irrational. They'll tell you that you have feelings for someone who only brings you misery. That's why you should listen to your head and dump any boy who makes you cry more than he makes you laugh. Relationships are meant to bring you happiness, not sadness.
You don't want your heart to convince you to stay in an unhealthy relationship. You need to listen to your head when you know your heart is biased. Are your head and heart currently telling you conflicting things?
Comments
Sapna: All points are abs true
Cupcake10: I wish I could have done that the man I'm with now loves me unconditionally and keeps me happy it makes up for all the misery and fighting I had to go through to get him in the last 2 years
Emilylas: Very true ... But it's all easier said than done
Noni: I've been with this guy for 14 years and can't seem to leave I checked out his phone and on his text he is looking to pay a girl for sex but calls me his girlfriend
Steph: Unfortunately you have to do what you have to do.
Bunny: Thanks for this reminder sometimes love blinds ❕
OhMeOhMy10: All 7 points in this post prove if you love, respect & honor yourself... The most important individual of all !!!
Courtney: It is definitely more important to listen to your head over your heart. And it always seems that your head never leads you wrong.
xashleyxcx: @Noni Please do yourself a favor and talk to him about it. Maybe it's been such a long time and he wants something new.
Haleefacee: 1,2,5,7 that's mine
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