You probably know the old saying, 'opposites attract', but have you ever been in an opposites attract relationship? It's difficult! If you find yourself in an opposites attract relationship, don't worry, I've got the top 9 tips on how to make an opposites attract relationship work! It's hard, but it is so, so worth it in the end!
1. Don't Expect It to Be Easy
One of the very first things that you need to understand whenever you are in an opposites attract relationship is that it isn't going to be easy. I'm not saying it isn't worth it, but it also isn't easy. I'm in an opposites attract relationship right now and even though it isn't always easy, it's definitely worth it and I am so in love.
2. Be Realistic
You have to be honest with yourself and be realistic. You aren't always going to agree or understand your partner. Once you get over the fact that you won't ever truly, totally get everything your partner does, you'll see a huge difference in how you approach your relationship!
3. Look at Your Own Behavior
There are some behavior changes that you can make to actually make your opposites attract relationship a little easier. Do you need to temper down your attitude during a fight? Do you need to not be so sarcastic all of the time because your partner is a little sensitive? Whatever it is, make sure you look at your own behavior and see what you can change.
4. Good Communication
The key to being in an opposites attract relationship is honestly, communication. Like I said, you aren't always going to understand one another and that's why it is important to communicate to one another what you are feeling and how your partner is making you feel. That way, you'll be able to understand each others mind a little more and possibly understand your reactions.
5. Stop Complaining
One of the biggest things that people do when they are in an opposites attract relationship is complain. They complain that their partner never gets them, that they don't understand them and that they never will. If you really want the relationship, you definitely want to stop your complaining, after all, you want to work on your relationship, not make it harder right?
6. Ask for What You Want
When you're in a relationship like this, you've got to voice not just your opinion, but you've also got to voice what you want. Your partner, because he does not share the same mind as you or the same reactions doesn't know what you want – until you've been with them for a while. So ladies, make sure that you ask for what you want!
7. Recognize How Your Partner Enriches Your Life
Instead of focusing in on the bad or what is wrong with being in a relationship like yours, why not figure out how the man is the ying to your yang? Focus in on the good and how your partner actually enriches your life. This is an easy way to figure out exactly why you are with your partner in the first place.
8. Pick Your Battles
Just because you are opposite of your partner doesn't meant the entire relationship has to be about fights. One thing that I have learned in my 7 year opposite relationship is to pick my battles. You don't want to fight all of the time, instead, you'll just have to learn to let some things go.
9. Resolve Differences before a Fight
Finally, before you get to the point of fighting, why not try to resolve your differences before your fight? If you are fighting because of a misunderstanding, why not talk it out, discuss it instead of fighting?
An opposites attract relationship is never, ever easy to be in, but it is also fun. It's great to get an understanding of someone that is completely opposite from you and truthfully, they can offer a different prospective. Have any of you ladies ever been in an opposites attract relationship before?
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