--- title: "17 Tips to Feel More Confident when Youre Having Sex ..." description: "Wear Lingerie; Turn the Lights off; Role-play; Listen to Confidence Boosting Music; Wear a Sexy Scent; More ..." url: "https://love.allwomenstalk.com/tips-for-feeling-more-confident-during-sex/" category: "love" last_updated: "2026-06-02" --- # 17 Tips to Feel More Confident when Youre Having Sex ... You're a beautiful, sexy woman. That's why your boyfriend loves having sex with you! Don't ruin the moment by letting your self-consciousness take control. Here are a few tips that'll make you feel more confident during sex: ## 1. Wear Lingerie ![Wear Lingerie](https://img.allw.mn/content/uj/hh/vqoqhtsf56f2c02a86e8d739874149_500x234.gif) This will kill two birds with one stone. It'll boost your confidence while turning your man on. ## 2. Turn the Lights off ![Turn the Lights off](https://img.allw.mn/content/aw/j6/yrf1zujz56f2c03e40fbc816123136_500x281.gif) You won't feel as self-conscious about your body if you're in the dark. It'll hide your "flaws." ## 3. Role-play ![Role-play](https://img.allw.mn/content/ou/wl/t9cqz05s56f2c02abcfe4780718409_500x287.gif) This is the only time when it's okay for you to pretend to be someone else. If you dress up as a cop or a french maid, you'll feel more confident, because you're playing a fun role. ## 4. Listen to Confidence Boosting Music ![Listen to Confidence Boosting Music](https://img.allw.mn/content/ty/vj/h9z52wz156f2c02b8b96c229879919_540x225.gif) You can listen to music to pump you up before you have sex, or you can keep the music on while you're having sex. It'll set the mood and keep you confident. ## 5. Wear a Sexy Scent ![Wear a Sexy Scent](https://img.allw.mn/content/ls/cm/rh2lib6856f2c02be585f207628750_500x281.gif) Don't underestimate the power of a scent. Wear your favorite fragrance and it could change your entire attitude. ## 6. Take Control ![Take Control](https://img.allw.mn/content/w6/y5/higr8hnc56f2c02b37426211571153_500x232.gif) Men like when women take control. That's why you should climb on top of him and dominate him. When you see how excited he gets, your confidence will skyrocket. ## 7. Think Positive Thoughts ![Think Positive Thoughts](https://img.allw.mn/content/pe/ld/wzmv33cm_390x219.gif) Sex isn't the time to think about all of your flaws. It's the time to focus on all of your strengths, and you have plenty of them! ## 8. Make the Room Look Nice ![Make the Room Look Nice](https://img.allw.mn/content/wg/bg/i3iky60c56f2c02c24dfb509052897_500x275.gif) You'll feel better if you're in a positive environment. That's why you should declutter your room before you invite any boys over. ## 9. Keep on Some Clothing ![Keep on Some Clothing](https://img.allw.mn/content/cj/cm/a5pww6k856f2c02baba71768463485_500x227.gif) If you're super self-conscious about your tummy, you can always keep your shirt on during sex. There's no rule that says you need to take all of your clothing off. ## 10. Make Your Hair Look Nice ![Make Your Hair Look Nice](https://img.allw.mn/content/ut/vh/yl44h3tc56f2c02cc3e49658905234_400x225.gif) A bad hair day can ruin your night, but a good hair day can make you feel better than ever! That's why you should do your hair and makeup as nicely as you can when you're expecting to have sex. ## 11. Get into a Position You like ![Get into a Position You like](https://img.allw.mn/content/f0/sy/rn5vucfc56f2c02c63503984186694_500x281.gif) You'll feel more comfortable in certain positions. Once you figure out which ones you like the best, use them more often. Your man won't mind. ## 12. Exercise Beforehand ![Exercise Beforehand](https://img.allw.mn/content/iv/lo/uwwiy69s56f2c02d3d059902755275_500x335.gif) Working out will make you feel amazing. That's why you should do it before you see your partner. Just don't forget to shower right after. ## 13. Shave before Having Sex ![hair, person, blond, hairstyle, long hair,](https://img.allw.mn/content/bb/ew/nbs59aen58d1010b6915f232941627_500x270.gif) You don't have to shave off every hair on your body. Of course, the smoother your skin is, the sexier you'll feel. ## 14. Ask What He Likes about You ![image, photography, muscle, arm, hand,](https://img.allw.mn/content/c9/i2/z90qcq2w58d1010ba1d73228408755_500x219.gif) There are millions of things your boyfriend loves about you. Ask him what they are and you'll feel more confident than ever before! ## 15. Watch Porn to Study Techniques ![Watch Porn to Study Techniques](https://img.allw.mn/content/gw/sa/au7ym2xr56f2c02c8b19e521532667_500x205.gif) Pornography isn't 100% realistic. Of course, you could still watch a video or two in order to feel like you're more educated on the subject. ## 16. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others ![Stop Comparing Yourself to Others](https://img.allw.mn/content/fc/um/ewj4nb9s56f2c02d59873320583356_500x314.gif) It doesn't matter what his ex looked like or what the porn stars he watches look like. He's not comparing you to anyone else, so you shouldn't be, either. ## 17. Don’t Overthink Things ![Don’t Overthink Things](https://img.allw.mn/content/fg/e1/xd5amb7656f2c02e00b55936070509_500x240.gif) Sex is supposed to be fun. Don't overthink things. Just enjoy the moment and do whatever makes you happy. 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