Breakups can get messy real easily when there's still love in the mix. It just makes moving on THAT much harder! However, when those rough breakups come, we just have to toughen up and get over it. Take a look below on how to move on while you're still in love with your ex:
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1. Work on Forgiving Yourself
Always, when you're moving on while still in love with your ex, work on forgiving yourself. It sounds way easier than it is, but you need to do it. Forgive yourself for losing yourself in the relationship, allow yourself time to really get to know yourself. Remember, all relationships that end are hard, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to get over it. You've just got to try!
2. Practice Releasing Regrets
Releasing all of your regrets is one surefire way to move on when you're still in love with your ex. You could write down all of your regrets on a piece of paper and burn it; that way you can completely forget about them. Releasing your regrets is really going to allow more room in your mind and soul for someone to step in.
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3. Remember the Bad Times
Dwelling on the good times isn't going to help you really get over and move on from your relationship, you've got to dwell on the bad times. Think about all of the fights that you had, think about all of the bad times that he or she ruined, think about all of the horrible times in your relationship. Know what they are, so that you won't repeat them in the future or fool yourself into believing an idyllic view of your relationship.
4. Reconnect with Old Friends
Moving on should be all about reconnecting with old friends. You want to maintain friendships that you might not have had when you were with your ex. Ask a friend you haven't seen for ages over for coffee – catch up and see what happens! This is truly one of the best steps for moving forward in your life!
5. Create a Deep Separation
When you and your ex finally call it completely quits, you've got to cut off all of the communication. I know it's hard, but why keep their number in your phone? Why keep texting them or calling them? Why do you need to talk to them constantly when you are trying to get over them?
6. Go through the Grieving
Grieving your relationship is a natural process – and one that you need to go through. You need to make sure that you are going through this process, otherwise you might never, ever move on completely. Remember, it's natural to eat ice cream and cry. Let yourself!
7. Remember the Benefits of Moving on
Finally, think of all of the different benefits of moving on! You finally have the time to be single, to go out whenever you want without someone keeping your time. You finally have all of the free time in the world and no one tying you down. Keep that in mind!
8. Find a New Hobby
Finding a new hobby is a very important part of moving on. It's important to fill up your time with activities that make you happy! That way, you're not using your free time to stress out over lost loves.
9. Remind Yourself That There's Other Fish in the Sea
Sure, it might feel like he's the only guy on the planet but we all know he's not. Your special guy is out there waiting! It sounds cliche, I know, but it's true! Be open to the idea that there are other men who'd love to get to know you.
10. Do Not Accept a Booty Call
This should be obvious but ladies, do NOT respond to that late night text. Sleeping with a guy you still care about will not help you get over him. It'll only keep your feelings for him alive! Keep #5 (creating a deep separation) in mind and keep him out of your bed (and heart)!
11. Be Patient
Lastly, be patient. Your feelings for your ex won't fade overnight but eventually, they will. If you follow these tips and REALLY commit to getting over someone, you'll be fine in no time.
These are just a few of the things that can absolutely help you move on, even if you are in love with your ex. So, have you ever been in love with an ex or can't get over one? Give up your story!
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Martina: My boyfriend and I dated for 6 years broke up, he went straight into a relationship I waited 8 months.. He broke things off with his girl a year later (last week) said he was done she cheated on him.. We got in contact cause he had been shady, and wanted to apologize so I did and the feelings were right there for both of us. Unfair to my boyfriend so I broke it off with him who I only had been dating for two months.. Hoped that my ex and I would reconnect. After a week of saying hell never go back cause she cheated on him.. Gave her another chance... I told him to never talk to me again unless he was ready to kiss the ground I walk on. And deleted him and all hope from my life completely! This is exactly what I needed to read!!
Sarah: This post really helped. My ex went off the deep end and treated me terribly. His parents were no help either. I wish it wasnt so hard. This was the first guy that I actually did everything for. We went from long distance to in an actual relationship :( funny how you really get to know a person in such a short amount of time.
Mitchi: This article did help, but what advice do you guys have when you ex say's "i dont know what i want" Quick insight on our relationship: Dated for 2+ years, he was extremely jealous, and I became impatient and a Witch with a B. It got to the point where he realized that although he loved me he needed to stand up for himself and take time away from the relationship. i took it upon myself to just come on and not let that hope haunt me but i cant help but always think "what is he comes back, or should i fight for him" this isnt my first relationship but it is the first time i fell in love...
Jazzy: My ex and I broke up 9 months ago and I am still not over him. We were together for a year. We had our good and bad times like every relationship does. But when things started to get rough he started distancing himself from me emotionally and physically. Then he broke up with me and I was devastated. I did everything in my power to make it work but as I tried to hold on he kept pulling away from me. He told me that we had been through a lot and that he still wanted to be friends and we did after I took a little time for myself. But then not even a good 2 months later he got into another relationship even though he had told me that being in any type of relationship was too much work and that he wanted to be single for a while. Him being with her really crushed me and he even got her pregnant but she had an abortion. But when things started to go downhill with her he started to realize that he made a mistake with me and he apologized for hurting me. So we started fresh again and like before everything was good but then as we started to get close he started to become emotionally distant with me . Oh and I forgot to mention that he cut me off when he got a new gf. But anyway he started to become emotionally distant again and I told him that I wasn't going to go through what I went tshrough before and if he wanted me to be in his life then he was gonna have to show me a lot more respect but he says if that's what I need to do then leave the situation. I feel like he is disrespectful to me and that he doesn't care about my feelings at all. When I tell him how I feel he turns it around on me like I'm crazy. And then it all comes back to if u feel that way maybe u should remove yourself from the situation. I am so lost. I am starting to feel insecure again like when we first broke up. I know I just need to call it quits cuz I can't go through this pain anymore. My heart is telling me to leave but I don't know how. I still love him though. Any advice?
Kellie: My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. I moved away and the distance was getting to hard but I know there was more than that. He won't tell me or talk to me so I'm left here hurting never knowing what happened. I thought he was the one. He even planned our life together. But he's the one that broke it off. I wish I could confront him but I can't so much when I'm 4 hours away. Maybe I'll get to in a year but I'm afraid it'll be too late.
Abby: This could not have come along at a better time. Just broke up over the weekend with someone I love very much. Just trying to grasp that it's over and move on.
lazara: This is one of the hardest things I had to do...... He was the man I felt that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him but sadly it wasn't mutual
janine: I feel so desperate and wish there were something I could do to get him back, but I don't even think its possible at this point. The way I feel right now is that I probably will never hear from him again. My world's been turned upside down! I've lost my job and have been going through so many ups and downs. Any suggestions?
Kimberly: It's a lot harder when you have children involved though. Still have to have some communication :/
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