Breakups can get messy real easily when there's still love in the mix. It just makes moving on THAT much harder! However, when those rough breakups come, we just have to toughen up and get over it. Take a look below on how to move on while you're still in love with your ex:
1. Work on Forgiving Yourself
Always, when you're moving on while still in love with your ex, work on forgiving yourself. It sounds way easier than it is, but you need to do it. Forgive yourself for losing yourself in the relationship, allow yourself time to really get to know yourself. Remember, all relationships that end are hard, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to get over it. You've just got to try!
2. Practice Releasing Regrets
Releasing all of your regrets is one surefire way to move on when you're still in love with your ex. You could write down all of your regrets on a piece of paper and burn it; that way you can completely forget about them. Releasing your regrets is really going to allow more room in your mind and soul for someone to step in.
3. Remember the Bad Times
Dwelling on the good times isn't going to help you really get over and move on from your relationship, you've got to dwell on the bad times. Think about all of the fights that you had, think about all of the bad times that he or she ruined, think about all of the horrible times in your relationship. Know what they are, so that you won't repeat them in the future or fool yourself into believing an idyllic view of your relationship.
4. Reconnect with Old Friends
Moving on should be all about reconnecting with old friends. You want to maintain friendships that you might not have had when you were with your ex. Ask a friend you haven't seen for ages over for coffee – catch up and see what happens! This is truly one of the best steps for moving forward in your life!
5. Create a Deep Separation
When you and your ex finally call it completely quits, you've got to cut off all of the communication. I know it's hard, but why keep their number in your phone? Why keep texting them or calling them? Why do you need to talk to them constantly when you are trying to get over them?
6. Go through the Grieving
Grieving your relationship is a natural process – and one that you need to go through. You need to make sure that you are going through this process, otherwise you might never, ever move on completely. Remember, it's natural to eat ice cream and cry. Let yourself!
7. Remember the Benefits of Moving on
Finally, think of all of the different benefits of moving on! You finally have the time to be single, to go out whenever you want without someone keeping your time. You finally have all of the free time in the world and no one tying you down. Keep that in mind!
8. Find a New Hobby
Finding a new hobby is a very important part of moving on. It's important to fill up your time with activities that make you happy! That way, you're not using your free time to stress out over lost loves.
9. Remind Yourself That There's Other Fish in the Sea
Sure, it might feel like he's the only guy on the planet but we all know he's not. Your special guy is out there waiting! It sounds cliche, I know, but it's true! Be open to the idea that there are other men who'd love to get to know you.
10. Do Not Accept a Booty Call
This should be obvious but ladies, do NOT respond to that late night text. Sleeping with a guy you still care about will not help you get over him. It'll only keep your feelings for him alive! Keep #5 (creating a deep separation) in mind and keep him out of your bed (and heart)!
11. Be Patient
Lastly, be patient. Your feelings for your ex won't fade overnight but eventually, they will. If you follow these tips and REALLY commit to getting over someone, you'll be fine in no time.
These are just a few of the things that can absolutely help you move on, even if you are in love with your ex. So, have you ever been in love with an ex or can't get over one? Give up your story!