Relationships change and evolve in stages, which is why, in order to maintain harmony and balance within the relationship, both individuals have to adapt to each stage accordingly. At first every relationship is exciting and new, it’s filled with attraction and the urge to see one another constantly, but soon enough both of you fall into a routine. This transition can be easy for some couples but fatal for others. So if you are currently going through a rocky period in your relationship, it’s time you do some damage control.
1. Make Sure He/she Also Wants to Work on the Relationship
Before you make any attempt at mending your relationship, you have to make sure your significant other is willing to do the same. It’s important to know that the connection is still there and the whole relationship is not going downhill because one person is purposely distancing themselves with the intention of cutting ties in the near future.
2. See Things from His/her Perspective
Once you know that this is going to be a team effort, try to reflect on your relationship from the other person’s perspective. Try to understand how your actions might have affected the relationship and accept the blame for things you should take responsibility for. Avoid putting all the blame on the other person; you want this to be a healthy method of resolving misunderstandings.
3. Remind Yourself of the Good Things
When you feel like your connection with your significant other has lost its spark, awaken the early memories of how it all started. Remind yourself of what you loved the most about him/her, what experiences have strengthened your bond and all the little things that made you infinitely happy. Take note of those things and bring them back!
4. Come to a Compromise
Relationships and love, in general, are based on giving and receiving. You can’t expect the other person to mold themselves to how you want them to be when you aren’t willing to do the same. So if you want to make things work, you have to come to a compromise and make the other person happy too.
5. Voice Your Worries and Concerns
I believe that the most important thing for couples is an open channel of communication. Whenever you feel upset about something, even if it’s the smallest thing, let the other person know. However, do so without attacking them and make sure to use expressions such as “it upsets me when you do…” or “it makes me uncomfortable when…”Also, make sure the other person knows that you want them to be completely open with you, just like you are with them.
6. Do Something New and Exciting
If you feel like your relationship is at a plateau, spice things up! Do something spontaneous and out of the ordinary, something that will be exciting for both of you. It’s completely normal for couples to run out of new things to do and get too comfortable with how things are, but a change of pace could definitely only benefit your relationship.
7. Make Him/her Feel Special
Over months and even years of dating, you might notice that things sort of die down but you cannot let the passion between the two of you completely extinguish! You have to hold on to that electricity and the butterflies in your stomach. That’s what makes being together so special and exciting!
You might have hit a rough patch in your relationship, but all hope is not lost. With a little bit of work here and there, you can save your relationship and come out a stronger couple!