7 Tips for Girls Who Still Want to Stay Friends with Their Ex ...

You and your ex had a great run, but in the end things just didn’t work out. If the relationship ended on good terms, you might be thinking about staying friends after the breakup. That is fine, as long as you both are on the same page. Here are a few tips for staying friends with an EX.

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Are You Really Friends?

First, you need to know that he really does want to be friends with you. There are a few things that may be going on here. He may say he wants to be friends only to avoid hurting your feelings. If he isn’t answering your calls or following through with plans then he may not want to be your friend. On the other hand, he may be too eager to be friends and is really hoping to blur that line between friendship and dating.

Check Your Feelings

Now that you know where he stands, you need to evaluate your own feelings. Do you really want to be friends with this guy? Does hanging out with him in a neutral, platonic way sound fun to you? If it does, great! Are you hoping that being friends will give you a chance to flirt and reconnect on a romantic level? If so, slow down.

Stay in Groups

At first, maybe you should only get together with groups of friends. This is easy if you already have the same friends. This is harder if your group of friends are all dating each other. Either way, groups are safe.

Have an out

Have a talk with your ex and agree to end the friendship or back off if either of you start to feel something for the other. It will make you both feel safer that you have an out if it’s not working the way you planned.

Check Your Jealousy

He is your friend. You can’t get upset if he talks to another girl in front of you. Our friends are allowed to date. If he gets jealous of guys talking to you then maybe being friends isn’t a good idea.

Famous Quotes

Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it.

George Santayana

No Walks down Memory Lane

Don’t ever get caught up in sharing the memories of your relationship. That is the worst thing to do. It can stir up so many emotions and really offset the platonic balance you have going on right now.

Rehashing Arguments

Every relationship has its disagreements. Sometimes they get dissolved and all is well and sometimes those arguments are the things that lead to breakups. If you really want to be friends, you have to leave those arguments in the past. Let them go, just like you let go of any romance with your ex.

Have you ever been friends with an ex? How did it work out for you? Tell us about what worked and didn’t work. I would love to hear other people’s advice about being friends with an ex.

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

I have an amazing friendship with my ex boyfriend. We talk about everything, we have so much fun hanging out together and he knows me better than anyone else. No drama in our relationship but it ended because we knew we were both better suited as friends than a couple. We can say we love each other and know it's in a completely platonic way. He can hang out with my current SO and be completely comfortable with him and they get along very well. There's no jealousy. He's happy for me to find someone else and I'm trying to find the right one for him. I guess I'm lucky

Definitely a bad bad idea, I did break up with mine 2010 and we still arguing and bringing things from the past. It's very hard to keep friend with somebody that hurt you or didn't work out. Stay away cuz you will be ending hurt again n different way.

I disagree with #5. Absolutely, if the relationship is over, you should be free to talk to whomever you please. But it would be highly insensitive to do it in front of your ex, even if you have a purely platonic relationship now.

This is just on time! I needed this

I've always been the kind who likes to keep the friendships with my exs because they all meant something to me at one point... Doesn't mean I'm in love with them just means I appreciate them and don't want to lose them just because we aren't together

I'm pretty not to remained as friends after broke up even it's a good or bad breakup.

I don't think being friends with an ex is ever ok. Once you get to the point of being intimate and things like that how can you be "friends" I've never had sex with any of my friends or been cheated on by my friends. And then also who wants to be with someone who's still friends with a bunch women he's dated? That's bizarre to me. There's nothing wrong with being cordial but friends texting talking on the phone on going out? No.

Def agree with the first comment. Mrs. J

I'm actually friends with my ex and we are doing well as friends, we talk normal, only problem is that I still have feelings for him, but I rather have him as a friend than nothing, coz till now he is still one of a few people I trust and need... I it's kinda weird for some but we are both ok with this

Too much drama!

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