15 Warning Signs You're in an Unhealthy Relationship ...

By Heather

15 Warning Signs You're in an Unhealthy Relationship ...

Finding out all of the signs of an unhealthy relationship can be hard to face. If you've ever been in a relationship that is stable and wonderful and then move to a relationship that is unhealthy, it might be easier, but if unhealthy relationships are all you've ever known, you might not realize just how great a stable relationship can be. Ladies, I've got the top 15 signs of an unhealthy relationship that you should look for. After all, we all want healthy and well-adjusted relationships, right? So, let's explore 15 signs of an unhealthy relationship so that you can see if you are in one.

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1

You Take Each Other for Granted

One of the clearest signs of an unhealthy relationship is that you constantly are taking your partner for granted. Do you just assume that he is going to stay with you? Do you assume that your girlfriend is going to pack your lunch every day? These little things can actually break up a relationship and can make people resentful.

2

Lack of Trust

Do you find that in your relationship, you don't trust your man to go out by himself? Do you read through her emails? This is not a good relationship, girls and guys, this is actually one sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should be able to trust every single bit of your partner and should be able to trust them not to cheat.

3

Constant Insults

Does your relationship consist of constant sniping? Do you feel like you always have to be on the defense? Well girls, that is one of the top signs of an unhealthy relationship. Your boyfriend should make you feel amazing, he shouldn't constantly be putting you down. That could actually be a sign that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship.

4

Fighting Everyday

Another sign of an unhealthy relationship that a lot of people overlook is constant fighting. Now, every relationship has its bumps, especially if you two are living together, but if you're always fighting with him over the smallest things and you are frequently being picked at by him, that might not be a good relationship to be in. Remember, the good times should outweigh the bad times, not the other way around.

5

Social Isolation

When you isolate yourself completely from your family and also from your friends, that can be another sign of that your relationship isn’t healthy. You need your family and your friends to survive. You need other opinions in your life besides your partner's. So if you find that he expects you to just spend time with him, all of the time, that is a sign to be careful.

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6

Always Blaming

Another sign involves constantly blaming your partner, or looking for ways to blame him or her for everything. Girls, your partner is not always the person to blame for everything, he is not the person you should be blaming everything on and vice versa.

7

Omissions of Truth

While you might not exactly be lying about where you were or even where you've been, you probably aren't telling the truth, right? Or at least leaving the truth out of it and avoiding the question? The omission of truth is another sign that you’re in an unhealthy relationship, girls. While you don't necessarily need to tell your partner everything, you should be pretty open with them.

8

No Communication

Another sign involves no communication. Can you walk into a room and not say anything at all to your partner for hours? That's not a relationship, girls! You want to be able to share with your boyfriend and communication through problems.

9

Attempts to Control

We all appreciate being able to go to our partner to get advice but, if your partner always tries to advise or influence you to do certain things, it can be an attempt to control you. Does he tell you to who to be friends with, what things to wear or what to do with your spare time?

10

Keeping Secrets

When you’re in a relationship, there should be no reason to keep secrets from your partner. If you feel that he’s not trustworthy or that he’ll use the information against you, this is definitely unhealthy! Couples should be able to talk openly with one another without having to keep secrets.

11

Lack of Respect

A sure sign of an unhealthy relationship is having a lack of respect for one another. If he frequently breaks promises or criticizes you to make himself feel better, he’s not showing you much respect. You shouldn’t have to feel put down or feel like you’re not important!

12

It’s All about Sex

Sex is an important part of a relationship but it’s not all of it. If you and your partner rarely communicate and the only time you’re close to one another is in bed, that’s not what a relationship is about! Sex should be the icing on the cake and complement a strong, emotionally intimate bond.

13

Unhealthy Jealousy

A little jealousy doesn’t hurt, but when your partner is envious of your job or doesn’t like the fact that you have lots of friends, it’s unhealthy. Your partner should be able to be happy for you and your accomplishments and not feel like he is in competition with you.

14

No Compromise

A big part of any relationship, whether it’s romantic or platonic, is compromise. We can’t always have things go exactly the way we want so it’s important to compromise. If your partner isn’t able to make concessions, it’s going to make your life and relationship extremely difficult!

15

You Love Being in Love

Are you in love with being in love but not in love? There are some people who love the idea of being in a relationship so they stay in relationships even if they’re unhappy. That’s no way to live! If you’re only in it because of your desire to be in a relationship or you don’t want to be alone, you won’t ever be happy.

So girls, do you see any of these signs in your relationship? I know I've seen a few in mine, but I'm working on fixing them. Just because you've been in an unhealthy relationship doesn't mean it can't get better, as long as both of you are willing to work on it. What other signs of an unhealthy relationship have you noticed?

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My boyfriend does all of these, and admittedly I do several as well. Is there any way to salvage a relationship once you reach this point. Or is it best to cut my losses and get out??

8 Warning Signs You're in An Unhealthy Relationship ... (via Twitter)

Our fights are crazy, and they haven't gotten better even after 3 years. I don't want to leave him because he says that when he sees his future I'm in it and how he imagines having a little girl that looks like me. Which makes me feel guilty for even thinking about leaving him, but I feel like it's for the best. Not to mention I'm starting to fall for another guy who really cares about me. I'm not sure if I should just try harder with my current boyfriend or give this other guy a chance.

@Heather, we've been together for two years now, he made me meet all his family. And he told them iam his fiancee and every single person in his family knows we're getting married. He was super awesome but all of. A sudden he has become so much not into anything. He's stressed out most of the time. And not that caring like before. Whenever I talk to him about it. He swears he loves me but he's just stressed like hell.and iam doing everything I can to make him happy,even his own mom told that iam being so stupid for how I don't get anything in return.How can I make him miss me back and get him back like before.!

He drives me crazy , he insults me every time we fight , according to him it is always my fault , he tells me what I should and shouldn't wear anymore because he is very jealous , he has heard a lot of rumors about me witch aren't true and he said that he has proof that those are true but won't show me the proof , he called me a whore many times even though I risked everythimg for him and I never cheated on him and than he apologizes when we make up again (we break up and make up many times) he insulted my mother and my aunt also calling them whores for no reason then he apologized about it and I forgave him evem though I love my family more than anything in the whole world . By the way my parents don't know that I'm dating him bcause they don't allow ,e to date any guy because they think I am too young (I'm almost 17) and for him I risked my familys trust and I lost it , i don't have a social life and I don't go out too much because my parents don't allow that . I don't laugh like I used to (it's all fake) i feel isolated and really bad inside and this boyfriend of mine made me think that I am really all those things he said even though I'm a virgin and he is my first boyfriend my first kiss and everything else . I lied to him and this I feel sorry for but I was scared . Now I know that I should break up with him (in fact I always knew that but I have this idea that I can't live without him and I love him very much ) but I want you to tell me how can I not care anymore and move on and have fun . He loves me too but I think he is way too obssesed with me and that love is unhealthy . He keeps mentioning all the things he did for me and makes me say sorry and feel sorry and think that I did him wrong . He also slaped me one time because he found this porn video on my phone ( I watched it because I wanted him to be satisfied when I do it with him , you know when I get older ) and i lied and said that my cousin watched it so he doesn't break up with me . I know you will think I'm stupid for being with him until now and I would be stupid if I get back to him . That's why I want you to help me get through this . I can't discuss it with anyone else . I'm sorry for my kinda bad english or my spelling mistakes . I'm albanian .

My story is kind of long but here it goes, I cheated on my boyfriend about a year and a half ago. The thing is I was drunk, really drunk. I know that is not an excuse but I know that if I would have been sober I would have never done that. The amount of guilt and pain that I feel is unexplainable. I dropped out of college so I wouldnt have to see the guy I cheated on him with. We are still togeather and have a baby she is 4 months old. I have lost all sorts of communcation with my friends. I am not allowed to go out with my friends. Not even for a visit or anything. He goes out with his friends and he drinks. He is very jealous and posesive. Idk wht to do. I am truly sorry and try and do everything I can so that he will trust me again, but nothing seems to work. Should we seek for help or just go our seperate ways?

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