You shouldn't have sex with someone, unless you're completely comfortable with them. If he makes you feel uneasy in any way, then you should keep your clothes on around him, whether he's your boyfriend or not. After all, you deserve to be treated right. Here are a few ways that he should be respectful in the bedroom:
1 Lets You Set the Pace
He shouldn't push you to move faster than you want to move. If you want to make-out for months before taking the next step, then he should respect that.
2 Wears a Condom
There's no excuse for refusing to wear a condom. It doesn't matter if he thinks sex feels better without it, or if he swears that he's clean. No matter what, he should wear a condom to keep you safe from STDs and pregnancies.
3 Gets Tested for STDs
If you ask him to get tested, then he should get tested. There's nothing wrong with wanting proof that the person you're sleeping with is free from diseases.
4 Waits for You to Consent
He doesn't automatically have permission to sleep with you, just because you're his girlfriend or because your clothes are off or because you got him hard. He needs to wait for you to consent to sex before he initiates it.
5 Respects Your Boundaries
He should respect your boundaries, even if he doesn't agree with them. It's the least that he can do if he actually cares about you.
6 Refuses to Guilt You
He shouldn't guilt you into sleeping with him by saying that all of his friends are doing it, or that he deserves to get laid, since he treats you so well.
7 Talks to You about It Ahead of Time
If he's smart, he'll talk to you about sex before you two actually have sex. That's the only way he'll learn what you are and aren't comfortable with.
8 Has a Safe Word
You should have a safe word to use during sex--and if you ever use it, he should stop immediately.
9 Tells You His Intentions
From the start, he should tell you if he wants a relationship or if he's only interested in sex. It'll save you from confusion.
10 Won’t Tell His Friends about His Sex Life
He shouldn't brag to his friends about all of the things you did with him. He should keep his private life private.
11 Won’t Make You do All the Work
You shouldn't be the one on top of him, doing all of the work during sex. He should put in as much effort as you do.
12 Won’t Be the Only One Who Orgasms
Yes, it's a little harder for women to orgasm, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve to finish. You should orgasm as often as he does.
13 Doesn’t Say Anything Negative about Your Body
He shouldn't say anything mean about the way that you look. After all, he's lucky he's getting to see your body at all.
14 Won’t Call You Mean Names
Some men can get carried away in the heat of the moment. However, he shouldn't call you a "dirty slut," and assume that you'll take it as a compliment.
15 Listens when You Say No
He should know that "no" means "no." It's not a hard concept to understand.
16 Stops when It Hurts
If you're in pain at any point during sex, he should stop what he's doing. If he loves you, he won't want to hurt you.
17 Makes You Feel Beautiful
If you're having sex with the right person, it'll make you feel beautiful. If you're overly self-conscious, then you're probably with the wrong guy.
Don't accept anything less than respect inside and outside of the bedroom. Is your boyfriend respectful in the bedroom?