7 Ways to Assure He'll Never Lose Interest in You ...

Be Spontaneous • Keep up Appearances • Never Stop Learning • Have Your Own Friends • Continue Dating • More ...

By Holly • Mar 23, 2015 MD

You and your man are on good terms now, but you can't help but worry about whether that's all going to change one day. I mean, people are always saying how married couples stop sleeping together and start arguing once they hit a certain point. Well, it doesn't have to be that way. Here are a few ways to assure that he'll never lose interest in you:

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1. Be Spontaneous

After you've been together for a while, you'll fall into a certain routine. You'll see each other on certain days, go to certain restaurants, and hang out with certain people. While there's nothing wrong with developing a routine, you have to break it every once in a while. Surprise him with reservations for a restaurant in a different town or buy him tickets for a show in the city. Do whatever you can to keep him on his toes.

2. Keep up Appearances

You don't have to wear makeup every morning and toss out every pair of sweatpants you own. However, you should occasionally dress nicely just for him. Buy some lingerie or a new dress that he won't be able to take his eyes off of. If you're with the right man, he'll return the favor by buying something for himself to wear that you'll adore.

3. Never Stop Learning

This one is essential, not only for your relationship, but for yourself. If you've been with your man for years, then he'll eventually have nothing left to learn about you--unless you keep trying new things. Join a class or take a trip. That way, you'll be living a life you enjoy and will constantly have new things for him to learn about you.

4. Have Your Own Friends

Don't let your man become your entire life. If he sees that you have plenty of friends that love spending time with you, he'll realize how lucky he is to have you and won't lose interest. That's why it's important to organize your time--because you want to have a social life that doesn't involve your man.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Continue Dating

If you act like a boring old married couple, then you'll start to feel that why. That's why you need to continue to go out on dates. It'll give you a chance to dress up, show each other off in public, and have flirty conversations. If you want your relationship to stay interesting, you have to act like you're still in the honeymoon phase, even when you've been together for decades.

6. Give Him What He Wants

You aren't his slave, so you don't have to wait on him hand and foot. However, he won't lose interest in you if you always surprise him by doing something special. If you know he loves cheesecake, pick him up a slice on the way home from work. If you know he hates taking out the garbage, do it for him after he had a rough day.

7. Never Lose Interest in Him

If you don't want him to lose interest in you, then you can't lose interest in him. If you're both happy to be involved in each other's lives, then you won't have a problem. You'll always be excited to spend time together.

As long as you continue to put effort into your relationship, you two shouldn't have a problem. What do you do to make sure that your relationship remains fun and fresh?

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  • Kate

    2015-03-25T02:01:20.394Z

    Ladies. I apologies I did not want to start a fight. I grew that women should do these things for their partner, but with different motives than 'keeping him interested.' You should because you love him
  • Amaris

    2015-03-24T01:21:50.400Z

    I'm so feeling what Kate said ^^^
  • ila

    2015-08-16T15:30:38.801Z

    Do not forget "give him some space, don't be too possessive/jealous, listen to him/his concern, be by his side when he needs you (even if he tells you to go away), be grateful/thankful, COMMUNICATION is the MOST IMPORTANT thing in a relationship, motivate/push him/cheer him up + don't forget to be your true self!"
  • Kelly

    2015-03-24T10:26:12.262Z

    So we have to 'keep him interested' but men don't. I've been with my husband for 10 years married for two, and I can honestly say that at my worst our relationship was at its best because he took care of me, it made both of us realise how important each other is. I do things for my husband all the time and vice versa but it isn't to 'keep him interested' it's because we love each other and feel the other deserves to know that. People go through hard times in their lives these are the things that test a relationship and show how you feel. If you have to wear make up or loon nice for him then that's not who you should be with. I wear make up for me my husband doesn't like it but I've been brought up believing it's what you do each day I won't change that not even for my husband. X
  • Cheryl

    2015-03-24T15:46:49.100Z

    Some of you have obviously never been in a long term relationship... No offence... Don't get offended but yes after awhile things can get comfortable ... So yes you need to do your makeup some days put i. Effort even tho you have the guy. Think of new things to do... Almost 10 years with my husband... And these are important... And yes men need to do it too 2 way street all that but this is all women's talk not mens talk ladies
  • Denise

    2015-03-25T00:49:37.806Z

    There is always a giver and a receiver... Just make sure you are emotionally nourished when doing so much for another!
  • Kayy

    2015-03-24T02:11:49.715Z

    What a lovely article. Ive been with my boyfriend for just a year and a half. We will be married soon. Such a positive approach to a long relationship. Thanks these will come in handy one day ;)
  • Rachel

    2015-03-25T10:54:23.466Z

    Hmm..perhaps the idea of this article is better than the title? Maybe the title should be something less patriarchal...like..."7 ways to keep the fire burning" or "7 ways to maintain a strong relationship" or "7 ways to keep things interesting". I can see why some of us ladies would feel irritated by this article. The title and subtitles practically belittle women by making it sound like women should possess this need to keep their men interested. It shouldn't be about keeping him interested, but rather about keeping things fun and fresh (or however suitable to the needs of each couple's relationship). The former really perpetuates the inferiority of women. The latter says that everything a woman should give should be just as much as a man should give, and the focus for both sides lies at large in the couple's best interest for their love.
  • Cheryl

    2015-03-24T15:48:56.688Z

    Kelly if your guy is one that likes the au natural than do it for him sometime and not do up your face all the time... Its just he's the exception do the opposite than lol
  • 2015-03-24T07:54:13.794Z

    Great article!
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