7 Ways to Be a Great Flirt ...

By Holly • Feb 6, 2015

Whether you're trying to capture the attention of your crush or just want to have some fun playing the field, you need to know how to flirt properly. If you can't, then you'll never get the guy you're interested in. Don't worry, because flirting isn't nearly as complicated as it seems. It's actually pretty simple once you get the hang of it. If you need some help, here are some ways to be an amazing flirt:

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1. Be Playful

You can't expect to make a man fall in love with you if you're always talking about politics and medical issues. Intellectual conversation is great, but to be a great flirt, you need to have a playful side. That means that you need to stop taking everything so seriously. Crack jokes, tease him, and smile as often as possible! Keep things light.

2. Look the Part

No matter how verbally charming you are, you won't get anywhere with a guy if your body language and looks aren't doing their part. You need to have good hygiene, dress your best, and look like you're happy to be around him. That means you should avoid crossing your arms and habitually checking your phone. You should look as interested in him as you sound.

3. Know How to Respond

A great flirt is a great conversationalist. Unless you're texting your crush, you can't pause for ten minutes to think of an excellent response. You need to figure out how to keep a conversation going. It might help to think up a few interesting topics ahead of time so that you can redirect the conversation toward them if things get boring.

4. Don't Get Embarrassed

You can't be a great flirt if you're constantly worried about embarrassing yourself. If you're terrified of rejection, then you're going to hold yourself back from making flirty comments and giving compliments. You need to be fearless to flirt. Stop thinking about the bad things that could happen and focus on the good.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Pay Attention

You can't allow the conversation to revolve around you. You need to make sure that you give your crush time to talk. More importantly, you need to actually listen to what he's saying. Don't ignore him, because you're so focused on how you're sitting and if your make-up got messed up. He'll be able to tell if you're actually listening to him, so no matter how distracting his hotness is, listen to his words.

6. Remember the Little Things

Great flirts know the importance of subtle moves. Lightly touching his leg is better than grabbing his arm. Occasionally glancing over at him is better than just staring. Tiny compliments about his appearance are better than huge ones about how perfect he is. Moderation is key.

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It's those small, effortless gestures that can leave a lasting impression. A brief, gentle touch on the arm signals interest without overwhelming him. Maintaining eye contact for a few seconds, paired with a playful smile, indicates you're engaged in the moment. Whisper a light-hearted jest about his quirky tie or compliment his smile; these understated comments may resonate louder than grand overtures. Flirting isn't about grand declarations; it's an artful dance of nuance and restraint.

7. Be Confident

Confidence is the answer to all of life's biggest questions. It's the way to get a guy, get a job, and get a free drink. Even if you're shy and insecure, you're capable of faking confidence. Once you learn how to do that, it'll eventually start feeling real.

You'll get better at flirting the more that you do it, so don't hold yourself back. Any man would be happy to get your attention! Do you consider yourself an amazing flirt or do you need to work on your skills?

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  • Jessica

    2015-02-06T19:35:30.137Z

    Anyone help me? I met this guy from my English called Ryan, I really am starting to like him, we've been talking a lot staying up until 1am and sending each other snapchats and cute messages. So anyway, today I asked him if he wanted to go round town with me, but my friend tagged along, we did have fun and he seemed to be smiling a lot, anyway when he was at the bus stop going home I hugged him (it was quite a long one) and then afterwards I messaged him saying that I really enjoyed spending time with him and he said to me I'm glad you did. But my sister said that he's not saying much about me, so don't bother chasing him. I really really do like him, I have offered him to go out to town again on Thursday but he's not even replying to my message😪😪 I just don't want to lose him, I think I've scared him because I said maybe we should spend more time together being just me and you. Would should I do?? Thank you. Xx
  • Cristina

    2015-03-25T15:56:31.654Z

    I love this!
  • Sally

    2015-02-07T21:30:48.261Z

    @courtne it did! thank you so much :)
  • Lexy

    2015-02-25T04:58:10.646Z

    Well I have a boyfriend , He keeps asking me how he wants to kiss.. Is he insecure or what? I just don't know what to do or say ugh?!! Thanks!
  • FerniiRt

    2015-02-06T16:40:22.852Z

    I really need to work :)
  • Sally

    2015-02-06T20:36:01.576Z

    Hi! I need help! I can do all these things on this list except for the be confident part 😕 that literally is the main thing and I have problems with it! Can you give me advice on how to be confident?
  • Ashley

    2015-02-06T15:18:15.815Z

    I need to work on my skills lol
  • mar

    2015-02-06T15:07:22.111Z

    Touching leg????? 😶
  • Sally

    2015-02-06T20:36:45.537Z

    Anybody please?! I really like this guy too
  • Kimmi

    2015-06-23T01:59:27.678Z

    I'm happily married and I still flirt. Make a date night with your husband but role play as other people....flirt til he wants to snatch your clothes off....trust me, it works. Been married for 25 years and we are still hot and sexy for one another.
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