7 Ways to Distinguish if You Love Him with Your Head or Heart ...

To listen to the head or heart, that is the question. Some people fall in love instantly while others are more cautious. But what is the driving decision maker when it comes to love: the head or heart? Find out which to pay closest attention to.

1. Do You Love Him or the Idea of Him?

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To find out if your head or heart is in love with him, ask yourself: Do you love him or the idea of him? Sure it takes time to truly fall in love with a person but reflect on your intentions about the relationship. If you feel that you are in love with the idea of being with him because heโ€™s Mr. Popular or puts on a tough guy act while heโ€™s around you, you may only be loving him with the image your head is showing you.

2. Does His Personality Drive You Crazy or Giddy?

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When couples first start dating, both show off their best side and put their best foot forward. It definitely takes time to reveal true colors but if youโ€™ve been noticing some red flags about his personality, you may love him with your head. If your heart loved him you would not be feeling angry or confused about his actions. For example: maybe you love guys with a sense of humor so your mind has painted the picture of this charming guy who has a sense of humor. If you realize while dating that things he says actually offend you, youโ€™re letting your mindโ€™s love for him win.

3. Do You Appreciate Him for Who He is?

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Being in love means loving someone wholeheartedly for who they are no matter what. If you maybe fell in love with someone who used to be all that you were looking for and now changed, you no longer love him with your heart โ€“ your mind is holding on to memories and passion that the relationship used to have. Therefore be careful in analyzing which is the driving decision maker. If youโ€™re trying to change him from country boy to city boy, youโ€™re not in love with him in your heart.

4. Do You Feel the Chemistry?

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If a guy seems to do and say all the right things but you donโ€™t feel the spark with him, then you definitely love him only with your head. To connect with someone on a deeper level, passion and sparks is a must-feel. I think that often times women feel they can change a man or make him a better person and being in a relationship becomes more like a motherly chore rather than a loving journey with someone. Distinguish how you FEEL when youโ€™re with him and youโ€™ll have your answer.

5. Does He Only Sound Perfect on Paper?

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Maybe youโ€™ve had a list of 10 qualities youโ€™re looking for in a guy. Letโ€™s say you meet someone who matches all of those ten things and you tell yourself, โ€œHeโ€™s the oneโ€. If he only looks good on paper but you donโ€™t feel like youโ€™re connecting with him while youโ€™re spending time in person, then you love him only with your head. Your heart would know, otherwise, if it were falling with him because your gut would tell you โ€œkeep pushing on, heโ€™s a keeperโ€. Donโ€™t ever let a man talk you into being with him.

6. Do You Only Think of Being Physical with Him?

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Think about your crush. What is the first image of him that popped into your head? If all you fantasize about is being physical with him, then you may only be lusting for him and allowing your head to trick you into thinking that you want to be in a relationship with him. If your heart loves him, thinking of him should be magical and special as if youโ€™re walking through life with your best friend whom you can trust, open up to, and want to share things with. Being in a relationship shouldnโ€™t only be focused on being physical.

7. Are You Only with Him Because You Crave Love?

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Itโ€™s crucial for you to open up and be honest with yourself. Are you only in a relationship because you are craving love and attention or are you in a relationship because youโ€™re in a good place in your life right now and want to share experiences with someone else? If you are with someone right now and you canโ€™t see yourself with him long-term or you canโ€™t help but thrive off his compliments, you may only love with your head.

Personally, I believe that both the head and the heart should be in sync in loving someone. My favorite quote says, โ€œFollow your heart but take your brain with youโ€. Iโ€™ve been in relationships where my head was in love with the guy but not my heart, whereas other relationships my heart was in love with the guy but not my head. Pay attention to the strongest feelings and go with your gut โ€“ you will know, deep down you will know if you should stay with him or notโ€ฆdonโ€™t fight the feeling, even if it means letting him go. Do you love him with your head or heart?

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