Being single doesn’t always have to be difficult and sad; there are many ways to enjoy the single life! You are now a free woman – celebrate your time alone to set your priorities straight, learn more about yourself, and just enjoy the single life. Here are some of the things to focus on moving forward.
1. Focus on Friendships
One of the best ways to enjoy the single life is to focus on your friends. Maybe you have a friend whom you haven’t seen in forever because your past relationship consumed your every second. Now is the perfect time to reconnect with old friends and go out, have fun, and make new friends!
2. Enjoy Your Freedom
No more compromising. No more arguments. No more uncertainties about the future of your relationship. You are as free as a bird. Soar to new heights and enjoy your freedom, girl! Sure, relationships can be fun but everything happens for a reason and maybe there is an important reason why you are single right now. Embrace it and enjoy your own personal alone time to reconnect to the things that matter most to you.
3. Focus on Family
You may not only have been neglecting friends but also family since your last relationship. Yes parents and siblings can drive you crazy most times, but they love you and are always going to be there for you, encouraging and supporting you. Reach out to them. Plan a movie night with your brother. Visit Momma and cook together. Grab coffee and a doughnut with Daddio. Focusing on those who love you and want to be there supporting you will also take your mind off the past.
4. Learn to Love Yourself Again
This is the perfect time to reinvent yourself and learn to love yourself again. Whatever happened in your past relationship, whether is was him or you who ended it, focus on loving yourself and coming to peace with the fact that it ended for a reason and someone better will come along in the future. Until that person comes, take this time to get to know your likes and dislikes and figure out what makes you happy. You are your own best friend and biggest cheerleader, so pep yourself up and pat yourself on the back for being right here where you need to be.
5. Remember Why You’re Single
No, I don’t mean wallow in remembrance about the fact that you’re single. Celebrate it! Maybe you’ve just gotten out of a relationship and ending things was for the best or maybe you have never really been in a relationship because you are waiting for the right person to date. Either way, there is a reason why you are currently single. Embrace it and tell yourself that everything happens for a reason. The right guy will come along soon enough, just be patient.
6. Develop New Hobbies
Did your ex-boyfriend ever tell you what to do or not do? Maybe he didn’t like that you were so outgoing and loved to go out with friends and have a good time. Well, now is the time to do that. Maybe he thought it was weird how much you love painting and he crushed your inspiration and motivation to continue. Well, now is the time to pick up on your passion. The fun part about being single is also taking on and developing new hobbies – who knows, you may try something new and realize you have a hidden talent or passion!
7. Travel and Get out
Planning events for two can be very stressful. There are a few things that need to happen for couples when trips are planned: meeting in the middle, meeting in the middle, and meeting in the middle. If your ex-boyfriend was a control freak, you always had to bend to where he wanted to go. If you were the control freak, then he needed to bend and maybe wasn’t thrilled to do so. The fun of being single is to now travel and go wherever you want, whenever you want. If you decide right now that you want to take a weekend getaway, just pack and leave – you don’t need to consult anyone else and you don’t need approval from anyone else.
8. Focus on Future Opportunities
Don’t cry about why your last relationship didn’t work out; focus on the countless opportunities in the future. There are so many things to look forward to. You will never know where your life will take you 1, 2, or 5 years down the line. Your next potential boyfriend could show up at your new job, meet you in your next move, or transfer into your school next year. Personally I’ve seen how much I’ve grown and how far I’ve come in only 8 months since graduating college. My life has shifted so much between my career changes and moving. I need to remain focused and positive on the future opportunities.
9. Live in the Present
Not worrying about the past or the fretting about the future is the best present you can give yourself and the most enjoyable way to have fun being single. Today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present. If you can focus on living your life day by day you will be the happiest person you know and you will prepare yourself for the right person whenever he will show up in your life.
Remember that being single is more of a positive than a negative. I’ve experienced more time in my life as a single person and can attest that it’s a great time for personal growth and development while focusing on things I want AND searching for the person who matches what I’m looking for. Are you ready to enjoy the single life?