Why only 2 guys? Is it really unthinkable that women could be dating as many guys as they'd like to meet, simply to get to know them before becoming exclusive with one? Who made these nonsensical rules anyway? I'm conservative when it somes to dating, but not in the number of men I allow myself to get to know. It makes no sense to me that a woman should hurry up & pick a guy she barely knows (if she's dating him chances are she hasn't known him for long) to be exclusive with, thereby cutting off her opportunities to meet other guys. I say date up a storm, and only get serious about one guy when it GETS SERIOUS. And I'm not talking about sex: I'm talking about leaving your options open to meeting Mr. Right instead of settling for a while with Mr. We'll See How It Goes After We Have Sex/Shack Up For a While. It's nonsense. You don't have to have sex with your dates. I personally don't give in to men's ridiculous expctations for sex during the dating phase. Why would I want to get attached to someone I don't even know I like (that much!)? Women need to wake up & use their heads in their approach to dating. Would it really kill you to deny yourself and your date early sex in order to make a better informed choice? Remember the divorce rate & try to apply some logic. It doesn't take a genius, all you have to do is break away from the idiotic herd of women who have bought into the insanity of sex with men they barely know because it's what "everyone" is doing, and it's what men have come to expect. Make your own choice -- & stop lying to yourself that that's what you've been doing all along. You haven't. You know I'm right.

Once when I was young I had a "harem." Five guys who all knew about each other and were fine with just having fun. I learned a lot about guys in general and about myself and eventually when I found myself falling in love I broke it off with the other four and ended up getting married. I never mislead anyone or kicked anybody to the curb and have no regrets, and we're all still friends.

its going great! my first one works out of town so i dont get t see him very often, and we made an agreement that he can do what he wants when hes on the road, and i can do what i want, so we both have a second partner. i care for them both very much and they both care for me, they know about eachother and there are no secrets between us. its not a double standard because we are both doing it, no one is getting hurt and theres no tention, so wheres the harm? i dont see it and neither do they, its a mutual decision between 3 adults. but reguardless, it cant work for people who arent willing to let it work, or for people who get jelous easily, but if you can, try it, whats the worst that could happen, everything that happens in life is a learning expierence

Heather, with all due respect, I believe this just isn't right. I would hate to cause trouble and I enjoying reading your other posts but this? Just as Lau said, if a guy did this, the girl would be crushed. Why play around with two guys when you could have something wonderful and real with one? I truly believe something so controversial should not be supported on a website with teenagers (like me) and people of young ages. This may be the 21st century but there are such things as right and wrong no?

It's open and fun and creates less stress between relationships,