7 Ways to Handle Getting Back Together with an Ex ...


7 Ways to Handle Getting Back Together with an Ex ...
7 Ways to Handle Getting Back Together with an Ex ...

When you’re making a go at getting back together with an ex, things can be incredibly tricky. I have gotten back together with two exes in the past. One didn’t work out but he is still my best friend 10 years later and the other is now my husband, so I think I have a pretty good grip on what you should and shouldn’t do when you’re working on getting back together. Hopefully some of these tips will help you out!

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Let Go of the past

If you are getting back together and trying to make things work, you have to let go of everything that happened before. Whether in day to day conversation or a rip roaring argument, you shouldn’t bring up that time they lied to you 3 years ago. It isn’t fair and it isn’t going to help you two look towards the future. I know that it’s hard (trust me), especially if cheating was involved. But if you truly want things to work out this time, you have to start fresh.


Trust Each Other

When you’re getting back together, it can be hard to trust the other person again. Obviously you broke up in the first place because something went wrong. Don’t go through their phone or emails trying to dig up dirt on things they might have done while you were apart. Don’t question them a billion times every time they leave the house or don’t answer your text message within 30 seconds of you sending it. If there is no trust in your relationship, you have no relationship.


Don’t Ask Questions You Don’t Want the Answers to

If you are going to be heartbroken finding out that while you were broken up, he or she slept with 6 other women/men, don’t ask about it. If you’re worried about STDs, simply ask IF they slept with other people. If the answer is yes, and you want them to get a test done before the two of you are intimate, that’s fair. Don’t question them about who it was, how many times they were with them or where they did it. It isn’t your business, you weren’t together, it wasn’t cheating. You will only be hurting yourself and tainting the start of your new relationship if you ask.



People don’t break up for no reason. Obviously BOTH of you have things that irritate, frustrate or aggravate the other person. Work on those things. Before getting back together, have a realistic conversation with each other about the biggest concerns that you each have. Afterwards make a concentrated effort to work on fixing those things.


Take It Slow

If you lived together prior to your breakup, getting back together does not mean moving back in. You can’t just pick up where you left off, as much as you may want to. You need to take it slow and make sure that getting back into the swing of things is really the right place for you both. Test the waters before diving in.


Be Choosy about Whom You Listen to

Chances are you told all of your friends about what a jerk your significant other was when you two broke up. Every sordid little detail about your relationship came out in your moment (or months) of hurt, anger and sadness. We tend to talk about our partners more when we’re mad at them than when we’re happy, so keep in mind that when all of those friends turn around and tell you not to get back together, they are basing that opinion on all of the nasty things you told them and they can’t take into account all of the wonderful times you had because they don’t know about them. If they have real concerns (abuse, drug/alcohol dependence) then by all means, hear them out and heed their warnings, but if you know you did nothing but badmouth your significant other, then they really only have your side of the story.


Know when It Won’t Work

You get back together with an ex because you miss them, you miss what you had and you want it back. If it works out, that’s amazing, but ultimately, it may end up being too hard to handle or one of you may not be as ready and willing to work on the problems as you had previously thought. Don’t waste years of your life trying to change someone or letting someone try to change you. If it isn’t working out, call it quits and save both of you the heartache. Believe it or not you CAN end up being friends eventually; you don’t have to lose each other completely. Some people just aren’t meant to be in a relationship.

I hope you can take some of these tips to heart if you are trying to rekindle the romance you once had with someone. Make sure to take things slow and think things through so you don’t end up worse off in the long run. What tips can you share for getting back together with an ex?

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You can go back to your ex, but not everyone. If he or she slept or did others in the time you broke up, he/she is definitly NOT worth it and you deserve better. I believe there is someone for everyone that will treat you like you are the world for them. You just have to believe that you are worth it and one day it will happen, its in your hands what to choose.

Well said, because all of this is very true, I'm very interested in my friend after three months of hanging out with him one night after dinner and a movie he said he's doesn't want to be in a relationship so were just friends, and I can see my self with him for with him, but I just don't push things and we talk and text each other everyday

So I'm pretty sure this article was written specifically to me. I always ask the questions I really actually don't want to hear the answers for, and I being up the past quite a bit. This is pretty eye opening to me. Thank you.

It's like everyone has tried it. Doesn't always workout for everyone though. It can either be the worst decision you've ever made or one the best. For me it was the worst!

I definitely needed this! I'm in this situation right now actually. My ex and I have been broken up for almost 2 months, and we are trying to work things out and get back together. It's not the easiest thing

Never go back with an ex. Don't waste your time on something that didn't work.

We broke up last week and he's talking to me all the time! Do you think he just wants to talk to me or he wants us to be together again? it was a silly reason, we were fighting all the time, but we didn't try to change that situation..

I needed this!

Just never get back with a ex, they are that for a reason. Someone so much better is out there :)

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