One of the most annoying and detrimental parts about being in love with someone is that it can really mess with the connection between your heart and your head. What I’m saying is, that we don’t always fall for the people who are the most suited to us, or the people who treat us well. If you have found yourself in a partnership that your head is telling you is toxic, but your heart is having trouble letting go of your feelings for them, then you owe it to yourself to let your head win out. Here are some ways to let go of a toxic relationship when you’re still in love.
1. Ask Yourself
You need to ask yourself, on a scale of one to ten, are you really ready to do this? If you are reading this article, then the answer is going to be closer to ten than to one, and sometimes it can be something as simple as actually saying it out loud and coming to terms with it that can spur you to make the final decision. Feeling ready is one thing, but BEING ready is another. You need to make sure you have plans and people in place to help you remove yourself from the situation.
2. Block Him
Once you have made the big jump and left the relationship, make sure to block him on all and every social media and communication platform that you have. The nature of a toxic relationship means that you are going to be tempted to go back at times, so removing his ability to contact you is going to be really helpful for keeping the two of you apart.
Make sure that you have everything settled in your mind by taking some time to actually define and recognise why you need to let go of the relationship. Having a mental or even physical list of reasons why you need to get away from this person is much more concrete and motivating than simply having a general thought of “this isn’t right” in your head. Clear thought lead to clear decisions.
4. Question Reality
The thing that toxic relationships can do is start to distort your perception of what is normal and what is real. You can get to far down a dark road with a toxic partner that you forget what a normal relationship feels like, so try to do something to remind yourself of just how far from normal your life has become. Friends and family can often be a helpful reality check.
Put yourself back out there! The best way to help you see just how toxic and bad your old romance was is to get back in the swing of things with a new, good guy. I’m not saying you need to get serious ASAP, just dip your toes back in to the dating pool to help you realise that you never want to go back to the way things were.