10 Helpful Ways to Move on from a Break-up ...

Initially, the pain of a breakup leaves us feeling raw, inadequate and imperfect. In the midst of allowing all those feelings to fester, we begin to talk negatively to ourselves at times taking full responsibility for the outcome of the relationship.

Sometimes even the best relationships end without plausible reasons. Breakup symptoms may be as frivolous as cheating, people falling in and out of love or outgrowing each other. Or, either party just does not want to be committed at that point in their lives.

Regardless of the signs and symptoms that manifest, no one is ever ready for a breakup and it actually feels as if you are mourning a loss. In some instances, you are mourning the loss of how you felt when you were with the person and the demise of an association.

Nonetheless wallowing in self-pity rarely does much as far as helping you start the next chapter of your life. Once one gets over the hurdle of not feeling good enough or thinking that you were replaced by someone better, you begin to focus on the new life you will create and the next relationship on the horizon.

But in order to break through the quagmire of breakup doom and gloom, you have to sever all ties with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. Do not find excuses to be in each other’s lives, and get rid of reminders that will have you pining for him or her. Also, delete contact numbers from your mobile devices.

This way you are not inclined to make a buffoon out of yourself when tired, overmedicated or tipsy. In moments of weakness, it is so easy to get back into a situation that is basically going nowhere.

Take the time to improve yourself mind, body and soul. Take lessons in subjects you were always interested in. Ignite old friendships that fell by the wayside when you entered coupledom.

Get plenty of rest even when you do not feel like it. The wellness gurus are right; sleep does make everything feel better. Proper rest, good nutrition and hearty laughter can make the discomfort of a broken heart seem insignificant in no time.

Although this may be a period in your life when you might want to push yourself a little more than usual to be all you can be, it is best to take it slow and be gentler and kinder to yourself.

Meditate and reflect. Go deep within yourself and search out what it is you want from a relationship. Perhaps you need to reevaluate the type of people you are drawn to. Unequally yoked individuals only end up causing their respective partners emotional pain and inevitable heartbreak.

At the beginning of a breakup, we all feel as if there isn’t a light at the end of the tunnel but eventually time makes the wound less piercing and problematic and we are able to look forward to new possibilities and opportunities.

In this life, relationships take on many forms and not all are meant to last forever. As long as we can be realistic and remember that the only constant is change relationships will come and go and through it all, we will be alright.