Learning how to prepare for a long distance relationship is never easy. My boyfriend is planning on studying abroad in Italy next semester, which means that I won't be able to see him for about 5 months. Planning ahead for a LDR is going to be hard, but that's why I've come up with my top ways to plan for my LDR relationship. These tips will help you plan ahead and overcome the hardships that come along with a long distance relationship. A LDR relationship is never easy, but it is possible and with these tips, it'll help you and your boyfriend get through it!
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1. Admit It’s Happening
You will never be able to prepare for a long distance relationship if you are in denial. Once you start to accept that you will be apart from each other, it will be so much easier to work through the process of being in a LDR. You can better prepare for what the two of you are going to do.
2. Talk about It
After you personally accept it, you have to make sure you both can admit it. If you are actively talking about it, it will make it more comfortable for the both of you when it actually comes time for you to be apart. This step in how to prepare for a long distance relationship is critical for success.
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3. Set a Plan
Are you going to stay together? Are you going to take a break? You two need to sit down and figure these things out. This should be the official beginning of learning how to prepare for a long distance relationship. You cannot get into the details of what you are going to do without having an overall plan.
4. Set Some Rules
Maybe you don’t feel comfortable with him talking to a girl at a bar? Let him know things you would prefer him to avoid when apart. And ask him if he has anything he is uncomfortable with. If you set some rules, you will have more peace of mind when you can’t be with him. This is a great rule to have when you are learning how to plan for a long distance relationship and it's one of the keys to success!
5. Have Something to Keep Each Other Close
It can be anything sentimental to both of you, like an old t-shirt, a stuffed animal, a scrapbook. Anything he can look at when he is feeling lonely and misses you. Extra points if you spray it with your perfume. One of the hardest parts about being in a LDR is missing the individual touches and smells of one another.
6. Keep in Contact
Even if you decide to take a break, plan on emailing or Skyping at least a few times when apart. It will make it easier to be apart and will be a constant reminder of how much you two care for one another. You can update each other on your lives so you still feel connected to one another. The phone is also vital when you are in a long distance relationship!
7. Enjoy Yourselves
It’s not a completely terrible thing to be in a long distance relationship. Take this time to try something new, hang out with the girls, and somewhat enjoy the single life. Enjoy the freedom for the time being.
Being in a LDR is always hard, but that doesn't mean that it can't work. Have faith girls! What other tips do you have when you are learning how to prepare for a long distance relationship?
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Comments
Yuki: I don't agree when you said "enjoy the single life." If you are still in a relationship I think it would be in your best interests to act like it, you know? No matter, I think that this is a very useful article. Thank you!
Linzi: My boyfriend and I have been together since November 2011, were both 22 and he's moving to Canada for a year long working holiday and I've really struggled to accept it at first, almost breaking up over it. As scared as I still am that I could get my heart broken, I have decided to stick with it because I ultimately want to end up with him and know I'd kick myself for giving up. He's said all along that he wants us to move in together when he gets back as we were already going to this year before he made this decision. The only problem now is that my initial reaction has made it hard to talk about, how do I casually bring him to see that I'm positive about it now? And how do I reassure myself it's still ok while he's away? I trust him more than anyone but just knowing how wrong I've been in the past shakes my confidence. Any suggestions will be appreciated.
Alejandra: I have been with my bf for about two months, and hes leaving to study abroad for 9 months, we are planing on me moving in with him, in 4 months, and Im a little scared that we are stil in the honeymoon stage of the relationship and what if this time apart will ruin the relationship and we are rushing things with my moving to another country after just 2 months of dating...
maria: 5 months for school with contact? you have it made. my fiancé will leave one week after christmas for afghan for a year for his second tour. we were apart 11 months in 2010 because of the military with horrible Skype connections, and hardly ever any phone calls because he was so far out. His job is very dangerous being an infantry man. at least you know your man will be safe...
Emilene: My now Hubi and I were in a LDR since 2005 when he moved to Las Vegas from San Francisco. One thing worked for us was having unlimited mobile to mobile minutes. We would be on the phone as soon as we were off work and would be on till it was time to go to work (yes, even when we were sleeping the phone was on). We would also try to watch the same show on the tv and movies at the same time to get the feeling of closeness. But most of all communication and trust is the key to making it work. Our LDR ended this year when I finally moved to Vegas to be with him. We got married August 2010. Yes LDR can work.
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