8 Ways to Rekindle an Old Flame ...


Have you been dying to find out all of the ways to rekindle an old flame? Have you been trying to find the right ways to rekindle an old flame but none of your attempts have worked? There are some things that you've got to take into account when you are exploring another relationship with an ex. There are feelings to consider and you have to wonder, is it worth it? If you feel it is, take a look below!

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Make Sure You Are Ready to Recreate a Relationship

If you're really looking for ways to rekindle an old flame, you've got ask yourself if you are ready to recreate that relationship. Are you ready to pursue something that you might have let go years ago? Do you think that he's ready? These are all questions that you've got to ask yourself before you instantly start to rekindle some of those feelings.


Is He Dating Someone?

Do you happen to know if your ex is dating someone? Has he been seeing someone? This will determine if you are even able to rekindle something real with your ex or even just someone that you've been thinking about forever. If he is free and single and you are ready for a relationship, go for it, girls!


Have You Changed?

What about you? Have you changed yourself and you are now thinking that you are more compatible with who your ex really is? That could be one of the reasons and ways that you can reconnect and rekindle with your ex. However, I will say, never change yourself for a guy. You are perfect the way you are!


No Dinner Dates

When you are first starting out with a guy, it shouldn't be dinner that you go to. Start out with drinks and then progress into dinner if you think that it is going well. This can save you a really uncomfortable date and can actually save your time, in case you two have changed so much that it just isn't working.


Be Mature

When you are trying to rekindle something that was lost, you don't ever want to go about it in an immature way. Girls, you are better than that! You want to be really mature about it and come off as cool, collected and extremely confident! That is the only way to go about rekindling something real.


Remember Why You Broke up

If you broke up recently and you are reconsidering getting back into a relationship with him, remember why you broke up. Did he cheat on you? Was there something that you hated about him, was there something monumental which couldn't be changed? Remember, these things might not have changed now, so you don't want to automatically assume it will be a new relationship.


Set Yourself up for Success

I think that when you are really trying to rekindle something with an old flame, you've got to make sure that it is something that you both want. Who knows, maybe this is an old, old flame that you've been thinking about for years and years – and he has been doing the same. Think positive, don't set yourself up for failure by convincing yourself you won't be successful.



The timing of a rekindled romance is very important. It has to be right for both of you and who knows, maybe it wasn't the right time in the beginning and that's why you didn't get together – or why you didn't stay together. Remember, timing is everything, girls!

Whether you're dying to rekindle a romance with a lover from way back or you are just trying to get back with your ex from a few months ago, these are great ways to rekindle an old flame! So girls, do you have any other tips that would help? Give me a shout in the comments!

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Okay, I dated this guy for 6 months and we both really liked each other. I just broke up with my long term ex-bf and he's in the Navy. We broke up after one drunk night. Since then we had some time apart to do our own things. One day I decided to message him to ask him how he was and to my surprise he replied. We had a few exchange of text messages since but nothing much and we haven't seen each other. Recently he told me he just moved to a new town and asked me if I'd like to visit him. Initially I hesitated about it but after a few times, I thought he was genuine and he said he would like to see me. So one day I flew there, he messaged me saying he was apprehensive about me staying with him and his work and study etc. I thought maybe he was anxious about it and said don't worry, we will be just fine :) So I flew there - took 3.5 hours flight and it wasn't a good timing. He was really apprehensive and stressed out about work and his study. He spent one night together (no sex) but we held each other. The following night after he went to the gym, he told me he feels like he needs his space and that I had to leave asap. He told me he did like me but he is going to be this way for a long time and that I should date other people. I was so upset that night but in the end, it didn't work out for me. Next day. I told him that I was okay and hope that he feel better. I didn't regret any time I spent with him eventhough all my friends called him a douchebag. I don't resent him in anyway. Anyway I had read your article and It's a great advise. Unfortunately it doesn't work for me this time. But thanks and good luck to all :)

Thank you for this article. It gives me hope for the future. I'll definitely remember this when the time is right.

ok my ex and i split late august, we connnected in every possible way, but things went sour, due to my own actions, i didnt cheat or anything like that she we split up and she got back with her ex who she was convinced was a different man, he wasnt and know she is single again and i spoke to her for the first time in nearly half a year yesterday. I would do everything right if we was to have another chance, i miss her and her beuatiful daughter :( feels strange loving a child that isnt my own, but i still often cry over losing her. is it possible to win her back ? i know her fav flowers are gearbers or something like that, do i order them for easter with "ill write your name across the skies" on a card.... a lyric we related to and i was silly singing it once? HELP :S oh im male btw lol

When I saw the title, I thought you were talking about how to keep an old relationship going. You know how when you're with someone for so long, the love kind of just...dies. Could you do an article about that or is there on that's already there? Thanks! :)

Heather, you should definitely do some tips for long distance relationships and how to go about them when things don't work out. Definitely need some tips on how to get him back ;) hahaha.

What if he is in a relationship?

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