Telling someone you love them, that’s one thing; but when you show someone you love them, that’s a whole other thing. How much weight you add behind this four letter word gives meaning to what you say, simply because the fundamental fact remains that action speaks louder than words. Think back to the times when someone said they loved you and when they backed up their confession with gestures. There’s a difference, isn't there? So, say it, (scratch that), show it. Show someone you love them before it’s too late. Here's how to show someone you love them without words.
1. Actively Listen
Even the simplest of gestures to show your love can make someone melt like butter on a stack of hot pancakes... and it doesn't get any simpler than listening. Listen to every word that escapes their parted lips even when it seems a little boring. And when they ask you, "Have I told you this before?," say "Yes, but tell it again," and act like you have forgotten a detail or two because they love telling this particular story and they chose you to share it (again)! Don’t be distracted, don’t interrupt, just listen. Listen to show someone you love them.
2. Random Surprises
You will learn a lot about a person when you really listen to what they say, even in casual conversation. I remember once at a supermarket I casually mentioned to a friend what my favourite childhood cereal was. Ever since then, whenever I am upset, she brings me a box or two. It’s small surprises like this that lets someone know you love them. When they say, "OMG! You remembered!" that’s when you know you did it right! That’s when you are letting them know even the slightest detail about them is worth remembering.
Always make time for the people you love. It is understandable when you have to cancel plans because you are busy, but hardly making the effort to set aside time to meet up can convey that you are simply not interested. Set aside time to show your love even if it is picking the phone to call someone. "When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life you’ll never get back." – Rick Warren
4. Don’t Say I Told You
To error is human nature, and sometimes regardless of their better judgement, they still make the mistake. Has there been a time when you told someone not to do something because you knew they would regret it, but they still did it anyway? Yes, you knew better but telling someone "I told you so" is not going to make them feel better. The mistake is done and they too know they should have listened to you. Comfort them instead and remind them that everyone messes up, and that it is more important to learn from their mistake than to dwell on it.
5. Don’t Wait to Be Asked
Part of loving someone is making their life easier. This doesn't always have to be executed in grand gestures, like loaning money to a friend or family member or driving them across the state. It can be in the small things too, like taking the trash out without being asked, or once in a while doing something for them which they don’t like doing. I hate cleaning the hair out of my hairbrush. It just irks me and I practically cringe my face every time I clean it. I have a friend who noticed this and still cleans it for me despite my protest not to do so.
6. Cook Your Heart out
They say the way to man’s (or woman’s) heart is through his (or her) stomach. Most people usually cook on special occasions like birthdays and Valentine’s Day, but why not choose a random day instead to cook for that special person? Find out their favourite dishes and maybe even go all the way with table settings and a customized menu. Nothing says "I love you" like a home-cooked meal laboured in love. Bonus if you can cook for them and surprise them at their workplace!
7. Forgive and Forget
Sometimes the very people you love can hurt you the most and it is precisely because you love them that it stings a lot more. But with love comes forgiveness and you shouldn't say you have forgiven them only to throw their mistake in their face while having a fight. It is hard to forgive and forget because once you are hurt your defense mechanism is up, and you don’t want to be vulnerable again. So, while you say you forgive, you hold on to that grievance and that’s not really forgiving or forgetting, is it? Just remember that no one is perfect and it is worth it when it comes to forgiving and forgetting the slip-ups of someone you love.
8. Care Package
This one is for all those loved ones living a little too far away from you than you would like them to be. Distance is no reason to slow down on the love you have to give. A care package of the little things you know they will like or need is just what you need to show you love them. There are so many ideas online of what you can put in a care package or how to make it extra special. Seal your love in a care package and send it to someone you love dearly who may be far in distance but not too far for your love.
9. Hugs and Kisses
Didn't think I would forget about this one, did you? The warmth of hugs and kisses are the best when it comes to showing someone you love them without words. Whether it is a kiss good morning or a hug to let them know you miss them, these actions are not subtle in their reason and that’s a great thing! You want to let someone know you love them and you want to let them know it loud. Hence, hug and kiss away!
Love is a beautiful thing but how you express it should be just as beautiful. Express yourself through actions where words can’t and all these ways say what type of person you are just as much as it says about your love. What other ways do you show someone you love them?