When you discover that you have feelings for a buddy of yours, the idea of becoming more is daunting, but there are ways to transition from being friends to dating. You don’t want the relationship to fall apart too quickly and wreck your friendship. You need to handle the situation delicately if you want things to go well. Here are some ways to transition from being friends to dating:
1. Get on the Same Page
Before any kissing occurs, make sure that you both feel the same. Don’t assume that you’re on the same page, because you won’t know exactly what’s going through his mind unless you ask. If one of you wants a committed relationship, but the other wants a fling, you should just stay friends. You don’t want either of you to end up hurt. One of the best ways to transition from being friends to dating is to discuss before you date. Talking it out doesn’t sound like fun, but it’s crucial if you want a successful relationship.
2. Pace Yourself
Since you already know everything about one another, you may move faster than you would with a stranger. However, if you want to move slowly, do so. Every situation is different. It might be easier for you both if you jump right into your make-out sessions, or it might be easier for you to take things one step at a time. See what feels right, and go with it.
3. Lose the Jealousy
Since you’ve been friends for a while, he’s probably told you his secrets, some of which involve girls. You know all of the girls he used to have a crush on. Now that you’re in a relationship, you’re jealous when you see him speaking to them. However, you need to have trust.
4. Understand It’s Awkward
The first time you kiss may be awkward. You’ve been friends for so long that it’s strange for you to start locking lips. Just don’t let one strange kiss keep you away from him. Sometimes the sparks fly from the first touch. Other times, you need to get used to the new experience. Give it some time before you give up on him.
5. Stop Flirting around
Just like you know all of the women he’s been interested in, he probably knows all of the men you’ve had crushes on in the past. If he’s weary about you hanging out with someone you once loved, don’t get angry. Know that he’s only worried about losing you. Don’t let him control whom you hang out with, but don’t disregard his feelings either.
6. Remember Distance Isn't Destructive
Don’t expect to hang out with him every single day. You aren’t going to be his only thought because you’re now his girlfriend instead of his buddy. He still has other friends. He still has a life. You need to remember that he can’t spend every second with you, but that doesn’t mean that he’s being distant.
7. Don’t Lose the Friendship
When you enter a relationship, things shouldn’t change that dramatically. You should be adding a romantic element to the friendship, not getting rid of the friendship. Sometimes couples focus too much on the commitment aspects, and forget about the laughter. The best part about dating a friend is that you love him for his personality. No matter how long you're with him, never forget what made you become such good friends in the first place.
It’s iffy to start a relationship with a really good friend, because there’s risk involved. However, deciding to date could be the best decision you’ve ever made. Have you ever had feelings for one of your close friends?