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7 Ways You're Ruining Your Own Chances of Finding Love ...

By Rosalina

If you're struggling to find love then there may be some ways in which inadvertently, you're ruining your own chances of finding love. It's sometimes easier to blame others for our lack of love. We might tell ourselves that the reason we're single is because all the good ones are taken or all men are cheaters. In order to find love though, you might need to silence the inner voice which is telling you these things and also, examine whether you're actually standing in your own way of love. Here are some of the ways you're ruining your own chances of finding love.

1 Not Going out

I'm sorry but the man or woman of your dreams is not going to knock on your door and sweep you off your feet. That only happens in the movies and if you're not socializing and leaving the comfort of your living room then the chances of you meeting Mr or Mrs Right are slim to none. However, don't go out with the intention of meeting someone because you will be disappointed and nothing screams desperation more than a woman or man on the prowl, looking for the one. Go out with one intention and one intention only - to meet people and have fun. Finding 'the one' would just be a great by-product of an otherwise fabulous evening!

2 Not Being Adventurous

If you're not adventurous then it may stop you from finding love. Having a sense of adventure doesn't have to mean that you're bungee jumping or abseiling your way across the world. Have a sense of wonderment about you that leaves you open to experiencing life and all the great things it has to offer.

3 Being Stuck in the past

If you have your feet firmly stuck in the past then this will certainly prevent you from seeing all the wonderful things you are capable of experiencing in the present moment. You may have had a hideous experience which has meant that you are just not ready for a relationship but don't let your past rule your present and try to step out of the quick sand of the past.

4 High Hopes

We all fantasize about gorgeous celebs who we would love to date but the truth is, their breath smells in the morning like everyone else's! We like to think that they poop rose petals but they're human too and even EVERYONE has their faults. What I'm trying to say is that if you're holding out for a hero, you might be waiting a loooooooooong time. It's wise to have high expectations and we deserve it but if you have a very specific and rigid criteria, you're going to miss out on many other potential love interests. For example, you might be looking for someone who is 6ft plus with blue eyes and dark hair. What about the fair-haired folk with hazel eyes? Step out of your dating comfort zone.

5 Making Excuses

If you're making excuses for not being with someone then this may be one of the reasons you're struggling to find love. Wallowing in this single self-pity pool is one of the ways in which you might be ruining your own chances of finding love.

6 Not Loving You

If you don't love you then no one else will. You need to fall in love with your beautiful self and the rest will follow. Look at the wonderful ways in which you contribute to the world and the difference that you make. You're here for a reason and acknowledging that will make you feel great and give you that aura of confidence.

7 Not Knowing What You Want

If you don't know what you're looking for then it might be tricky to find it! Visualize what you want and it will come to you. You can manifest all that you desire by having an intention and releasing it so that the universe can work its wonderful magic. It sounds far-fetched I know but as Einstein said, "Everything is energy and that's all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics."

These are just some of the ways you may be ruining your own chances of finding love. Can you think of any more ways?

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