That first year of marriage, man. It's hard. Being a newlywed isn't all rainbows, kittens, and leftover wedding cake. The anonymous secret-sharers of Whisper have some very eye-opening confessions about what newlywed life can really be like.
1 Flirtations or Temptations?
This one's hard. While it's true that you don't have to stop looking just because you're married, you can't go elsewhere for attention. If you find that you need to, everything's not as rosy as you probably expected.
2 Maybe, Baby … or Maybe Not
Naturally, this one of those things you should talk about before you say "I do." Know what's worse, though? When your new spouse changes their mind after you're married.
Sad facts. Sometimes there are too many things wrong.
4 Deep-seated Fears
This would hurt. Can things change that quickly after marriage, or is it likely that there were problems beforehand?
5 Homesickness Hurts
No matter how much you love the person you marry, losing your safety net is always hard.
6 Behind the Veil …
To be honest, I've been with Heather for almost ten years, and I still worry about this sometimes. It begs the question of how married two people can really be, and whether you can really, totally know another person.
7 Attention Affliction
Noticing a pattern among these confessions?
8 Struggles with Monogamy
Yeeeah, this is one of those things you really want to know about yourself (and/or your partner) before you make it official.
9 Secret Wishes
This is both sad and sweet, and I imagine a lot of newlyweds can empathize with the feeling.
10 Unequal, Unbalanced
This is just sad. Like, I feel bad for the person sharing this secret. No one should have to feel that way, although I know that's a rosy view of things. Probably naive of me, but still.
11 Early Dry Spells
Every marriage has dry spells and they all feel like the end of the world. That being said, yeah, it's a bit of a red flag if you haven't been together at all since the big day.
12 You Have to Communicate
Remember, though, that ideally, you have the rest of your lives to get to know one another better. Still, it bears repeating that there are some things you absolutely, positively have to discuss before you make this kind of commitment.
13 And You Have to Keep Trying
Never, ever stop trying to win your spouse's heart. Never. Try as hard on your first anniversary as you do on your tenth, your seventeenth, and your fifty-first.
14 Do You Ever Wonder?
I think everyone asks this question from time to time. However, it isn't always just curious or rhetorical. Sometimes the doubts are very real.
15 Marriage and Money
I don't think this is so much marriage as the combining of finances, though. In which case, I totally get it.
16 The Fear of Regret
I, thank goodness, have never had this fear. Have you?
17 Separate Sleeping Quarters
I hope this couple starts to talk to each other.
18 Is This a Worry for You?
Well. Variety is the spice of life, you know. Seriously, though, it's important to get it together sexually as a couple, even if it involves some compromise between the traditional and the experimental.
19 Look with Love
Don't stop looking at your partner with love in your eyes.
Do any of these ring true for you? Are there any confessions about marriage that you're willing to share?
peony @serene the points raised are not negative just people's point of view and congratulations being a newly wed!
Meghan This makes me not want to get married
Sil So depressing...
Isabella I hope I end up like you @Serene I can't wait to move out from my parents soon - and finally live with my fiancé!
Serene Sorry, meant to say the points raised in this articles are negative, not the comments!
Serene Why are all the comments all so negative?! I am newly married and I am much happier than before we were married!
Joowly Marriage is work. If he/she isn't doing something, then communication is key. Be open, be kind, and listen.
Cierra I see myself saying i miss my parents if I ever married by BF because he lives in Toronto and I live in Atlanta. I live less than 15 minutes away from my parents. It would be tough not to see them as often.
Monica Some people get married so they fit into the cookie cutter world..fulfilling society and family expectations..that's why they become ho-hum after marriage..it is a rude reality for some
az this is the most depressing article to post on valentines day :(
BrittanyBAKER still**
BrittanyBAKER I have to remind my husband sometimes that even tho we are married he Still needs to be the way he was when he was trying to win my heart.
peony Hmmmm...
Liz This article is a long winded way of saying grow up and act like a man/woman.
Kim I got married only in November last year and have been battling ever since with fighting for his attention over his iPhone. Before we got married he'd wake up every morning and tell me how he couldn't wait to be my husband and how I'd make the best wife in the world. Since we got married he no longer says anything like that. I know things slow down, but so quickly?!