Recently, I had a friend who thought that she found someone that she made a connection with. They went out a couple times, then he ghosted on her. He completely disappeared without a trace and she truthfully was hurt. She blamed herself until she realized that he was just a dick. Has this ever happened to you girls? Has someone completely ghosted on you before? Well, my friend, a month later, got a text message from him and he completely owned that he ghosted and now, they're going out a little but her trust still wavers. Has this ever happened to you? Mr. Ghost came back into town? What do you do? Well, lucky for you girls, I've got some secrets to go over when that ghosted guy does come back!
1. You've Got a Decision to Make
So first, you have a really big decision to make right? If he comes back, do you talk to him or do you actually shut him out? That's the decision that my friend was faced with and while she gave him a second chance, would you? If it was me, I'd give him a chance to explain at the very least.
2. Is He Ready Now?
The next thing that you'll have to figure out is, is he ready now? Is he ready to at least entertain the idea of dating you or at the very least, entertaining the idea of going out without ghosting? Find that out too if you do happen to give him a second chance.
3. Is He Avoiding That He Ghosted?
This is a big one girls, did he own that he ghosted you? My friend's ghosted guy did own it. He owned it, he apologized and he allowed himself to be outed. If he avoids it, it truly isn't worth it, he'll probably end up doing it again.
4. Don't Hide Your Feelings
Girls, just because you decided to give him a second chance doesn't mean that you have to hide your feelings. Actually, you should express them. He should take them seriously too, that is, if he cares enough about you.
5. Learn How to Communicate Together
Communication, even when you are just dating is huge! If he ghosted you, you've got to learn how to communicate again so maybe he won't back out and won't disappear again. Is it texting during certain times during the day? Calling each other? What's the best way?
6. You Might Be More Vulnerable
You both will be vulnerable if you decide to open up to each other. You've got to decide if that is what you want and if you are able to handle it. Being vulnerable isn't always fun, but it is worth it if you are going to let him back in.
7. Forgiveness is Key
Finally, you've got to let it go after you forgive them. Truthfully, forgiveness will come with time, as well as trust, but you've got to let it happen. Are you ready for it?
So girls, now that you have a baseline of what you need to look for and what you need to do whenever Mr. Ghost comes back, what's the next step? What're you going to do if he shows up? Give us some examples!