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What You'll Really Feel when You Lose Your Virginity ...

By Lyndsie

Losing your virginity is highly personal and, obviously, it's different for everyone. Every experience is unique, even when it's not – but there are also a few universal truths that most girls and women feel after they have sex for the first time – consensually. They're things you don't necessarily hear about, but they're nevertheless true – maybe not for everybody, and nobody experiences all of them, but you get what I mean, right? Do you recognize any of these feelings?

1 You'll Feel like Everybody Knows

You'll Feel like Everybody KnowsEverybody. You'll feel like you have a big neon sign on your forehead and an arrow pointing at your vagina.

2 But You'll Realize It Doesn't Matter as Much to Other People

But You'll Realize It Doesn't Matter as Much to Other PeopleNobody can tell just by looking at you, and although there are some exceptions, most people wouldn't care if they did know.

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3 You'll Define Your Own Virginity

You'll Define Your Own VirginityHow? Well, what does sex mean to you? The traditional definition of virginity is probably what pops into your head, right? The equation probably involves a penis, a vagina, and possibly a hymen, but see, that doesn't really take into consideration how guys feel. Plus, what if you're a lesbian and your first time is with another girl? What if you're a gay guy and your first time is with another boy?

4 You'll Have Some Feelings about Your Hymen

You'll Have Some Feelings about Your HymenIf you have a hymen, that is. It might have caused you some pain or you may not have felt anything. Either one is normal. A little blood is normal, but many women don't bleed the first time they have sex. Basically, there's no normal because just about everything's normal.

5 You Might Feel Let down

You Might Feel Let downFor any variety of reasons – it depends on how you viewed your virginity in the first place.

6 You Might Feel Disappointed

You Might Feel DisappointedEspecially if you didn't get off – and a lot of women don't. It is disappointing when you don't achieve an orgasm because orgasms are awesome, but sex is a learning process for all the parties involved. In time, it will get better – but don't be afraid to speak up and tell your partner what you like and what you need.

7 It's Possible You'll Decide Sex is Nothing Special

It's Possible You'll Decide Sex is Nothing SpecialYou might even decide you hate it. That's cool. You'll try again when – and if – you're ready.

8 But You Might Be Ready Right Away

But You Might Be Ready Right AwayThat is also beautiful.

9 If You Weren't Safe, You'll Regret It

If You Weren't Safe, You'll Regret ItEvery time. Even if you're both virgins.

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10 If You Were, You'll Have Fewer Worries

If You Were, You'll Have Fewer WorriesNot everybody feels anxious about everything – or anything – after their first time, but if you practice safe sex, at least you won't have to worry about your health.

11 You Will Not Be an Expert

You Will Not Be an ExpertYou might strut a little, though.

12 Things May Get Awkward

Things May Get AwkwardYou might feel awkward in general, and things with your partner can feel awkward as well. Even if your partner wasn't someone you're dating or seeing seriously, it can still feel weird.

13 You'll Also Realize That This Person is Stuck with You Forever

You'll Also Realize That This Person is Stuck with You ForeverIn memory, at least. No matter what happens, whether you look back and smile or cringe, your partner's right there.

14 But Not Your Soul or Your Heart

But Not Your Soul or Your HeartYou don't have to be emotionally or physically bound to the person you lose your virginity with. It might happen, but it probably won't, and that's okay.

15 Porn is Not Real Life

Porn is Not Real LifeIn no way, shape, or form. That is never more obvious than after your first time.

16 You Might Wonder if It's Always over That Quickly

You Might Wonder if It's Always over That QuicklyIf you are a guy or you're with a guy who came quickly, this is definitely a thought. The answer is no, it's not – and hey, it might not happen to you. But if it happens to anyone involved, it's okay. Don't be embarrassed.

17 You Can Define Your Own First Time, Too

You Can Define Your Own First Time, TooHave as many as you want or need. Just as a for instance, I consider my first time with a girl entirely different from my first time with a guy – mainly because I actually got off.

How did you feel – if it's not too personal?

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