Why Rejection Hurts so Bad ...

By Neecey

Why Rejection Hurts so Bad ...

Everyone says you need time to get over a breakup (well, that’s true). And people sympathize and empathize with your pain but all you know is that it hurts so bad. So maybe, it might make it easier, just a little even, to understand why your emotions feel so trampled on and then you can decide how best to help yourself move on and forwards.

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Unreciprocated Feelings

Unreciprocated Feelings One of the key reasons rejection hurts is that you suddenly realize that the strong feelings you have had for a person are completely unreciprocated, which can be really tough to take.

2

It is Unexpected

It is Unexpected Rejection can sometimes sting more than you want it to because the rebuff has come when you really didn’t expect it to. You might have completely misread all of the signals and thought you were going to get want you wanted, and when that is not the case, it can really hurt.

3

You Feel Vulnerable

You Feel Vulnerable Rejection can hurt so badly because, essentially, you opened yourself up to somebody and showed them the most vulnerable parts of yourself, only to be given no reward at the end of it.

4

Because You Weren’t Yourself

Because You Weren’t Yourself Rejection can be really tough to take, especially if you have changed your personality to try to meet your crush’s preferences in the first place. It’s really not something you should think about doing to begin with, but rejection can be doubly hard to take if you had turned yourself in to what you thought was their ideal.

5

You Don’t Feel Good Enough

You Don’t Feel Good Enough After experiencing some level of rejection, it can lead to a crisis in confidence about whether you were good enough for the person you opened yourself up to. It’s easy for others to tell you that is a problem with your ex rather than a problem with you, but it is often not so easy to believe them.

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6

You Put Them First

You Put Them First Rejection can be especially painful when you have spent an amount of time putting their needs ahead of yours. When you have a crush, you tend to want to do everything for that person to get them to like you, so when it doesn’t work, it feels horrible. And if you were in a relationship you invested time and effort to make your partner happy, and now it feels a waste.

7

When They Weren’t Good Enough for You Anyway

When They Weren’t Good Enough for You Anyway We cannot help who we fall for, but there are occasions when we know good and well that our crush / partner does not deserve our affection. It is for this reason that it can be especially painful when, even though you know you could do better, they reject your affection anyway.

8

Because You Have Seen What It Could Be like

Because You Have Seen What It Could Be like Rejection can really sting when you have known the person for a long time and you have seen what a relationship with them could be like. Or your relationship was what you wanted but your partner just wasn’t on the same page. Unfortunately, what you dream and what the other person dreams can be very different.

9

You Blame Yourself

You Blame Yourself After being rejected, you can spend a lot of time thinking about all of the things that you did to mess the situation up. However, no blame should be put on anyone’s head; some couples just aren’t meant to be no matter how much you want it to happen.

10

It Feels like Failure

It Feels like Failure The feeling of rejection can lead to feelings of personal failure, but you need to remember that it is not a failure, because the outcome didn’t depend on something only you were involved in. There are so many different factors.

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You Don’t Love Yourself

You Don’t Love Yourself If you don’t love yourself to begin with, then rejection will hurt even more because you will have been depending on someone’s love to keep you going.

Understanding why you’re an emotional wreck can help you face things more positively. It can help you understand why things went wrong and help you find a solution as well as a learning point for the future.

What aspect of rejection do you think is the pits?

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Very enlightening topic. Thank You. I have experienced #1 and #2...

5 and 6 are so true for me

Good reading thank you :)

This is so true

That is very true. Thank u :)

Aaaand another perfect article from you Neecey :-)

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