2. Choosing the Bad Boy is Choosing Your First Love: a Parent/caregiver

Our parents were our first loves and when we love, a certain part of our neurological system responds with pleasure.

So, in adulthood, when we meet people who have similar characteristics to our parents, our pleasure centers fire, making us – yes you guessed it – attracted to people who remind us of our parents!

Dr. Harville Hendrix, explains that we have a tendency to choose partners who have the same negative characteristics as our parents in an attempt to heal old wounds. So, choosing the bad boy are ya'? Maybe this bad boy, in all of his emotional unavailability and unreliability is just what you need to heal the wounds inflicted by your primary caregivers.

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