Let me start off by saying that I am not endorsing anyone to stay friends with every ex, nor am I encouraging anyone to remain friends with a dangerous, abusive, violent, or otherwise horrifying ex. You simply can't remain friends with every ex you'll ever have, generally speaking. I think we've all had at least one relationship where we've genuinely wanted to remain friends after breaking up, though. If your ex is a good person, if your breakup was amicable or at least calm, and if you're doing it for the right reasons, however, then there are plenty of valid reasons to remain friends with your ex.
1 You Played Important Roles in Each Other's Lives
Short-term, long-term, it doesn't matter – some people simply affect your life more deeply than others.
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2 Your Ex May Genuinely Be a Good Person
Breaking up with someone doesn't automatically make the other person horrible.
3 If You Were Friends First, You Don't Want to Lose Your Friendship
This is one of the best reasons to remain friends, providing that your relationship didn't kill the foundation of your friendship.
4 Falling out of Love Doesn't Always Mean Falling out of like
You can like someone very much, even if you aren't in love with them any longer.
5 You Might Simply Feel like You Make Better Friends
This happens more often than you might think.
6 Your Romantic Relationship Could Have Faded into Friendship
In fact, if you simply grew apart romantically, then you might even recognize that you're better off as friends.
7 If You Have Children Together, Being Friends Has Many Benefits
This goes without saying – it's an ideal situation and it's not possible for everyone, but when it is possible, it's so much better for everyone involved.
8 Ditto if You Have Pets Together
Same.
9 Your Ex Might Be One of the Only People Who Gets Your Humor
That's pretty big, especially if you have a weird, dry, or dark sense of humor.
10 Plus You Know Everything about Each Other
Granted, some exes will know more than others, but you get my drift, right?
11 Sometimes, It's Simply Hard to Let Go, Even if the Romance is Gone
If your ex makes you happy on any level, even after you've fallen out of love, letting go sometimes feels impossible.
12 It's Possible That You're Also Close with Their Family
Breaking up with an ex's family is awful when you really love those people.
13 And You May Have Tons of Mutual Friends
Ugh, same.
14 So You Won't Have to Go through a Friend-divorce
Seriously, friend-divorces are devastating.
15 Neither of You Will Be the Bad Guy
Wouldn't that be refreshing for a change?
16 You Can Help Each Other with Future Relationships
After all, you know what worked, what went wrong, what you both like, what you hate ...
17 You Won't Have Nearly as Much Baggage in Your Next Relationship
You may still have some baggage, but it won't be due to an acrimonious ex.
You should never stay friends with your ex because you want to get back together or because you're still hung up on the relationship – that has so much potential to hurt you – but there are times when staying friends is the best bet. Have you ever remained friends with an ex?
