It’s definitely not just men that lie to women, as there are plenty of lies that women tell men too, even if we don’t often admit to it. Just like many of the lies that men tell us, most of the common lies that women tell men are told just to avoid conflict, but lying will always cause problems in a relationship. Here are some lies that women tell men but would be unlikely to admit to.
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1. Money Isn’t Important
Most women would rather marry for love than money, but one of the most common lies that women tell men is that money doesn’t matter at all. While we may not choose our partners based on their income, a real lack of money can make life difficult and miserable, especially if it stops us doing what we want in life – having a family, for example.
2. Of Course I like Your Family!
Many women genuinely like and get along with their in-laws, but those that don’t are unlikely to admit it. Telling someone that you don’t like their family (especially their parents) can be really offensive, so it’s unsurprising that many women choose to lie to their partners about it!
Frequently asked questions
Honestly, we all tell little lies for different reasons. Sometimes it's to avoid hurting someone's feelings or maybe to dodge drama. It’s not just women though, everyone has their reasons.
From the classic 'I'm fine' when they're really not, to maybe exaggerating about how much they love watching sports — these are just a couple of examples. It's often about keeping the peace or simplifying situations.
Not always. Sometimes they're just little white lies meant to keep things running smoothly. But yeah, consistent lying can definitely become a problem if it creates mistrust.
It's hard to say one gender lies more than the other. Humans lie, period. It's more about the individual than their gender, if you ask me.
Tricky question! Some people think little lies can be okay if they're meant to spare feelings or avoid unnecessary fights. But in general, honesty is usually the way to go for a healthy relationship.
3. Sure, Put the Football on
Plenty of women do enjoy sports, which is great, but many women at the beginning of a relationship pretend that they don’t mind sitting through endless hours of sports when really they can’t stand it. It’s best to be honest from the word go.
4. I Don’t Mind Cooking Again
Another lie told by many women at the beginning of a relationship is that they don’t actually mind doing all of the cooking, washing up and picking up of dirty underwear and socks. The patience to lie about this usually wears off pretty quickly, and very soon the man finds himself having to scrape his own dirty socks off of the floor.
5. I Was Wrong
Hands up if you’ve ever apologized for something, knowing that you weren’t actually in the wrong? Most women will have done this at some time or another just to bring an argument to an end. No doubt most men will have done similar, because let’s face it, no one really enjoys fighting.
6. I’m Not Jealous
Many women will pretend they’re not upset if they catch their man checking out another woman or flicking through a dirty magazine, but the reality is often quite different. We lie because we don’t want to seem uncool, clingy or generally jealous and insecure. Usually the outlet for this is doing the same in return and trying to make him feel jealous too!
7. That Was Incredible
Near enough every woman has told a lie about their bedroom experience, be it ‘faking it,’ the old ‘size doesn’t matter’ or pretending not to be upset if a man suffers from a bit of erectile dysfunction. It’s also quite common for a woman to pretend that a man is the best (and/or the biggest) that she’s ever had.
8. I’m Fine
When he asks you what’s wrong, it feels natural to respond with, “I’m fine.” Of course, fine never actually means what the dictionary claims it means. Either you’re too tired to explain yourself, or you want him to figure it out himself. Why should you spell everything out for him? After all, he should know why you’re angry.
9. I’m Almost Ready
Whether you’re getting ready for a big party or a trip to the grocery store, you want to look your best. It’s not your fault that it takes an hour to apply make-up, do your hair, and find a perfect outfit. It’s stressful being a woman. When he rushes you to get out of the bathroom, you might lie just to keep him quiet.
10. She’s... Nice
Have you ever met your man’s ex or female friend? You don’t want to badmouth her, because it’ll make you seem catty. Your only option is to lie and say that she seemed nice. Of course, in reality, you hope to never run into her again.
11. I’m Not Mad at ALL
You can tell this lie in order to avoid a fight, but your face might give you away. If it’s clear that you’re angry, then it’s pointless to pretend that you’re not. Of course, when you’re angry, the sensible thing isn’t always the easiest.
12. I Have a Headache
After a long day, you just want to go to sleep. You love your man, but you’re not always in the mood to please him. You can’t just turn him down without a reason, so you say that you’re tired or have a headache. He knows that it’s a lie, but hey, it works.
13. Looks Don’t Matter to Me
You value personality over looks, but that doesn’t mean that appearances mean nothing to you. You’re human, so you’re going to be a bit superficial. There’s nothing wrong with admiring the hot men at your gym, as long as you remember that their brains are more important than their muscles.
14. You’re so Strong
Men like feeling masculine. If he does something as simple as opening a jar, you can inflate his ego with a compliment or two. It’s not hurting anyone, so why not?
15. I Was Only Kidding
After you say something mean, you can try to avoid taking responsibility for it by pretending that you were joking. Even if you actually were kidding around, the comment is still hurtful. If you know that your man doesn’t respond well to criticism, try to keep your jokes light.
Well, there you have it: 15 common lies that women tell but often won’t admit to. Some of them are totally harmless, while others could be potentially damaging for a relationship. Have you told many of these lies before, or are there some other ones that you are guilty of?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Holly Riordan.
Comments
courtney: My new fiancée is a cop so my biggest pet peeve is his " I'm always right" mentality thus just to get him to shut up long enough for us to have great make up sex I definitely say I'm sorry sometimes just to end it; other times I put him in his place
Kymm: Courtney, like your fiancé I am the same way "I am always right" mentality because of it he starts to get agitated and I always have to get the last word. I can be quite dominant in our relationship.
Carsten: We men do usually not play We act Women play with everything Dont act
Shazza: Life's to short! Sometimes you just have to say it like it is. And others, fib a little to make it work. There's no perfect answer.
Polyvoreg1: Abrar is totally right!!!! Sometimes we don't want to but we need to
Carsten: Yes men do hurt women, but what makes the difference is that it is never in their personal interest or intention...they do many mistakes but the intention is not play or harm by purpose. Women primarily uses feelings to achieve and accomplish and by that also to harm and manipulate ....it is really surprising why women has been born with gift to put children into this world.....YOU DONT PLAY WITH GUYS FEELINGS GET IT. Vaste majority of guys will never admit what i just did..in my remarks...and You know why ...they know deepest in that women do play with them and they dislike and disgust it...but they rather try to fake and lie about their feelings going down the drain...Poor poor females
Kymm: I never lied to my man about it, I literally told him the truth about them after three years of dating. I know they put on a fake smile every time I walk into the door but I ignore it cause I am not there for them but for him. it may be offensive but rather be honest than beat around the bush. when I am mad I have to leave a message on an answering machine or write it in a text (mainly text) because when I face him I get so baffled and enraged I can't even communicate properly. I hate cooking but I am an excellent organizer why because I hate having to rummage through through things. I do get jealous and wouldn't lie at all about it. I told him what he did to me he is doing it to her and she is more of the sensitive types and would often could get her heart broken easily. soft spoken and always nice to people. I told him you need to confront her because he never broke it off with her I know cause for three years same patterns occur. you start to learn those behaviors. not just that he mirrors off of me and realized how similar we are and what we need to do to fix it. when I figured out his constant patterns. I had it to my advantage to know the why behind the what in his behaviors and i am a very good investigator. I know where my loyalties lie and what he did was inexcusable. I knew it would happen I predicated it three years ago 4 days after our official date in creating our relationship. I dreamed that there was a dirty blond chick long hair holding hands heading to the entrance of the carousel of the mall. it happened. I told him that after if you love me like you said you do show me and go confront her face to face and like a chicken backs out. this isn't me starting shit it's me letting her know not to do it again and telling him to do it will prove his loyalty. see I may "flirt" with men but my definition of flirting is different I joke around make comments. literally takes it too seriously at times. i tell him to man up and realize how his actions affects us. what it creates and my behavior flares up too because of it. i say sorry when I know I am truly wrong. other than that i say I am always right cause I am. I am the brains in our relationship.
Carsten: You are just so terrible ....You lack completely selfawareness, You are ligthyears away from Altruisme .....selfishness dominate your sould and hearts.
Jenna: There is also the classic "What are u doing?" Text, to which u respond "working out" (even tho you just finished season two of the office and are about to start on a pint if ben and jerrys - im guilty )
Necee: omg this is so funny. cause its true. well most of them were
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