Rejection sucks! Go ahead – say it. Being told face-to-face, being ghosted, or seeing him with someone else is when you realize that it’s simply not going to happen with your crush. It’s a real knockback. But, don’t spend months dwelling on what might have been. It’s time to deal. Here's the tips for dealing with rejection you need.
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1. Play It Cool
One of the best things to do when you are rejected is to try your best to play it cool in the moment. Having a firm grasp of your own immediate emotional response means that you can save some face until you get home. There you can really unpack the emotions in the comfort and privacy of your own home and your own company.
2. Don’t Take It Personally
Try your best not to take the rejection too personally. Just because you are interested in a guy, it doesn’t automatically mean that he has to reciprocate those feelings. The rejection may not be a personal slight on your personality and your looks, but more just a general feeling from him that he does want to date right now or he simply doesn’t think there is a suitable connection. Kismet plays its hand.
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3. Keep Your Confidence
Think about the saying “those who don’t ask, don’t get.” That totally applies to you here! Instead of being sad or angry that you didn’t get the outcome you wanted, instead pat yourself on the back and be proud that you were confident enough to break from traditional gender roles and ask the guy out. There are plenty more fish in the sea!
4. Don’t Idolize
Don’t get in to the habit of putting your crushes on pedestals and idolizing them before you have got the chance to ask them out. The more you build them up in your mind, the harder the fall is going to be after they have declined your offer of a date. Just play it cool and don’t get too invested until you know that he is interested too.
5. Casual Attitude
Even if you have been thinking about asking a guy out for a couple of weeks, it will stand you in much better stead of avoiding hurt feelings if you take a super casual attitude towards asking him out. If you keep stressing to yourself that it isn’t a big deal, then it really will become not that big of a deal.
6. Take Your Time
Don’t jump straight in to asking a guy out on a date when you have only just met. Take some time to get to know him outside of a dating environment first to see whether you think you would be compatible in the long run. You can find out a lot about a person without having to go through the dating process.
7. Bounce Back
Try not to wallow in your own sorrow for too long. Dating is like riding a bike. If you fall off and hurt yourself, the only thing that is going to help you recover is to get straight back on and try again!
8. Be Positive
Don’t become obsessed with thinking ‘what did I do wrong?’. The truth could well be that you did nothing wrong, and that your crush simply wasn’t ready for the question. It’s a waste of energy to try to assign blame on yourself that isn’t there; keep a positive attitude.
9. Avoid Them
It might be a good idea to stay away from the person that rejected you for a little while, just so that you can work on building your confidence back up without having to be reminded every day that you put yourself out there and received no reward for it.
We face rejection all the time. It’s how we handle it that matters more than the act of rejection.
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Livebeauty: I find it rlly hard to let go, he probs removed my number and the chat and moved on with life and is partying like nothing happened. And i hve still not forgotten abt him. Idk how to let it go what do i do?
Shilan92: It's hard en it really hurts
Ndiaga: How are you doing
Farooha: He showed me that he care about me and holds me in public like am his gf... Then suddenly he start acting weird ignore me without reason and he give me reason o like he stop going out and when i called him he was a asleep while i saw from a snapshot they
Livebeauty: Last week wednesday i asked my crush number who i was crushing on for the past 8 months ( seemed very mutual and he gave positive signs) He also really seemed interested. He gave me his number and we had a really nice convo, but then suddenly he didnt rpl
Sinali: I didn't ask him out
Livebeauty: He didnt rpl anymore at all! Its been a week now that he hasnt replied. I decided that imma not text till he does and letting go seemed like da only option cuz i dont wanna seem desperate nd idk wht i culd hve done?? I badly want to kno why he didnt rpl
Farooha: Out... I got pissed of like why he's lying and i told him and hes like why you act like we are together while I told you we are just friends
Paris: I showed a man before I cared for him and its like he is playing on it. I feel so small about myself and be honest on how I feel. After telling him that he is still playing with my feelings. I move on and now I don't care if I cross on him. I did my part.
Lina: Thank you. I needed this now. I feel so weird these days to have never had a relationship at age 20. And everything I take the initiative and nothing comes back it feels like shit. But this article actually helped me feel better.
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