We've all been there, trying to learn how to deal with girls hitting on your boyfriend. There is the catty way of doing it and the ... "nicer" way of doing it. Remember, a girl only hits on another girl's boyfriend if he's hot, nice and all around a great guy – all good things! If you're wondering how to deal with girls hitting on your boyfriend, take a look at my top 7 tips below!
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1. Take Pride in Your Man
While learning how to deal with girls hitting on your boyfriend is never easy, you've got to give it up to your man for wanting to be 'that' guy that every girl hits on! Take pride in your man, really make sure that he knows that you are proud to be with him and that he is all yours!
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Dealing with girls hitting on your boyfriend can be a challenging situation to handle, but it's important to remember that your man is choosing to be with you. According to a survey by the dating app, Hinge, 63% of men in relationships are flattered when someone hits on them. This shows that your man is desirable and that's something to be proud of. Additionally, studies have shown that men in committed relationships are more satisfied and happier than their single counterparts. So while it may be uncomfortable to see other girls showing interest in your man, remember that he's with you for a reason and that's something to be proud of.
2. Don't Confront the Flirt
Why would you confront a girl that is hitting on your man, especially if he is making it clear that you are his girlfriend? You also don't want to make a huge scene. Instead, just pull your boyfriend away – or make sure that, with your actions, you are making it clear that the guy is claimed.
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When it comes to girls hitting on your man, it can be a really difficult situation to deal with. It’s natural to feel angry and jealous when another woman is trying to come between you and your partner, but it’s important to remain calm and handle the situation in the right way. One way to do this is to not confront the flirt. Confronting the girl could potentially make the situation worse and create a huge scene.
Instead, make it clear that your man is taken by your actions. You can do this by standing close to him, holding his hand, or even putting your arm around him. It’s also important to make sure your man is aware of the situation and that he is not encouraging the other girl’s advances. If he is, then you may need to have a conversation with him about it.
It can also be helpful to talk to your friends and family about the situation. They can provide you with support and advice on how to handle it. If the situation continues to happen, you may want to consider talking to the girl directly and explaining that your man is taken.
Frequently asked questions
It's really frustrating, right? Some girls might do it just to test boundaries or because they're naturally flirty. It’s not necessarily about you or your relationship, but it can feel super disrespectful.
That’s a tough call. If it's bothering you a lot, it might help to gently let her know you’re uncomfortable. But sometimes, just showing a united front with your boyfriend can send a clear message.
Not necessarily. Some guys just naturally attract attention without even trying. What's important is how your boyfriend responds to it. Is he respectful and clear about his boundaries?
He should be polite but firm. A simple 'Thanks, but I’m with someone' should do the job. If he nips it in the bud without encouraging more attention, that’s a good sign.
Absolutely! It’s completely normal to feel a bit jealous or insecure. What matters is how you talk about it and handle those feelings with your boyfriend. Open communication is key.
3. Don't Accuse
Just because girls are hitting on your boyfriend doesn't mean that you have to accuse him of hitting on them in return. Flirting is one thing, but if it is all one-sided, why get upset with your boyfriend? Instead, make it clear that you are his girlfriend and don't accuse him of bringing it on himself. It'll make it all worse!
4. Create Clear Agreements
Girls want what other girls have (and boys want what other boys have, and guys want what other girls have, and girls want what other girls have – you get the picture). You've got to keep that in mind and maybe have a conversation about it with your boyfriend. Create clear rules and clear agreements – flirting might be one of them, but also, making it clear in public that you two are together.
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Setting clear boundaries is more than just a conversation; it's about establishing mutual respect and understanding between you and your partner. When girls are hitting on your man, having had that talk means you're both on the same page. Be explicit about what behaviors are acceptable and which ones cross the line. This isn't about control, but about protecting the exclusivity and special bond you share. Remember, a strong partnership thrives on honesty, so keep those lines of communication wide open!
5. Remember to Get the Facts
Always keep in mind the facts. Was he the one starting the flirting? If not, then you really can't blame him! If you trust your boyfriend, then just ask him for the facts, ask him what happened and just how often (or how long) he'd been getting hit on.
6. Pay Attention to How Your Man Responds
If you are a witness to your boyfriend getting hit on – pay attention to exactly how he responds. Does he respond to the flirting? Does he flirt back? If not, then you have absolutely nothing to worry about, right? If he does flirt back, you might want to keep him in check.
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Communication is key in any relationship, so if you notice your beau engaging in a little back-and-forth, don't jump to conclusions. Instead, find an appropriate time to discuss your feelings about the interaction. Be open and honest without being confrontational. It's crucial to express your discomfort if there is any and to understand his perspective. Maybe he's just being polite, or perhaps he didn't realize he was flirting back. Setting clear boundaries together can strengthen your trust and relationship.
7. He Might Be a Victim
Finally, if your guy is hot and just all around a great guy (which I'm sure he's both!), he might be a victim to girls and guys constantly hitting on him. It can be daunting for you to deal with, but remember, girls and boys, it might not be his fault!
While it can be really difficult for you to handle other girls and guys hitting on your boyfriend, it is possible to do it! So, what other tips do you have? Give 'em up! Who knows, you might be helping a relationship and not even know it!
Comments
cartelea: I'm knocking that bitch out! Straight up
Nikki: Why can't other men and women respect each others relationships? I feel flirting with someone who is in a relationship or if you are in a relationship and constantly flirting with others is a sign of insecurity. and I don't mean that to be harsh. Everyone has insecurities but you should a least be aware of it and try to figure out why you feel the need for that type of attention.
Cynthia: I'd knock a bitch out ;)
Ema: If I notice some disrespectful bitch hitting on my man, I'd make sure I get my man attention immediately by being "playful" smile at him, kiss him, caress his arm or sit on his lap and caress his head all while totally ignoring the poor soul who's hitting on him and go on with my own flirt by keeping in mind to show off as in love and happy. Acting like that would demoralize that friggin-attention-seeking-miserable-creature and make her feel stupid. After all his taken; don't mess with me or you'll suffer the realization that what you want will never be yours to enjoy! Lol
Ema: He's*
Nikki: There are several woman who constantly hitting on my boyfriend. It's not just harmless either, its blatant and sometimes very inappropriate - it's so disappointing. I would never do that to another human.
Penny: These types of women are sorry as whale shit...
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