Sex Rut problems happen. It's how you deal with a sex rut, is what will make your relationship that much stronger. I know that I have been in a sex rut before and it is not easy to get out of! If you have found yourself in a relationship where the sex is just not happening and where you are even finding an excuse not to have sex, you should take a look at the list I've compiled below!
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1. Admit You Are in a Sex Rut
Just like when you are in AAA, you have to admit that you are in a sex rut in order to really accept it. It took me a really long time to finally admit that I was in a sex rut, but when I did, I found it easier to talk to the BH about it. It's a conversation that you're gonna want to have – seriously. I mean, look at me now, I'm blogging about my sex rut problems and helping others!
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Sex ruts are common for couples and can happen for a variety of reasons. It’s important to recognize when you and your partner are in a sex rut and to take action to get out of it. Here are some tips to help you get out of a sex rut and start enjoying sex again.
First, communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Talk about what you both need to get out of the rut. This could include discussing your individual desires and interests, as well as what you both need to feel connected and intimate.
Second, make time for sex. Schedule regular dates and plan activities that you can do together to increase your connection. This could include anything from going out to dinner or a movie to taking a romantic walk or a weekend getaway.
Third, try something new. Experiment with different positions, toys, and locations. This can help to keep things interesting and can help you both to feel more connected.
Fourth, be mindful of your body. Pay attention to how your body responds to different touches and sensations. This can help you to become more aware of your own pleasure and to become more in tune with your partner’s body.
2. Sex Education
One of the biggest defenses against a rut like this is sexual education. I'm not talking about your high school sex ed class – I'm talking about you brushing up on some of the sexual tips and tricks that are out there. Kama Sutra anyone?
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3. Surprises Make All the Difference
Believe it or not, a lot of people actually just schedule in their sexual escapades (I'll get to that later), but a surprise really makes it worth it. The surprise could be anything from a new piece of lingerie all the way to a sexy meal cooked by you and … you for dessert. Use your imagination and the possibilities are endless!
4. Choose a Different Place
Do you constantly have sex in bed? Why not switch it up a little bit? If you have a spare bedroom or even a couch in the living room, give it a try there! Switching up to all sorts of different places is a great way to keep the sex interesting. It works!
5. Engage in Pre-Sexual Activities
A lot of the time, foreplay is left and it is all about the big moment. Why not engage in a little pre-sex before the actual sex? It really does make all of the difference!
6. Don't Schedule Time – Just do It
Remember when I said that surprises make everything better? Don't schedule sex! It isn't something that should be a calendar appointment, it should be spontaneous. Like the way your man looks when he walks in the door? Pull him into the bedroom … or onto the couch!
7. Try Unique Positions
Do you always try the same exact positions? Why not switch it up a little bit? I can promise that it's going to be a different experience in every different position that you try.
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Trying new and unique positions can add excitement and novelty to your sex life. It can also help break out of a routine and prevent boredom in the bedroom. According to a study published in the Journal of Sex Research, couples who reported trying new and different sexual positions were more satisfied with their sex lives. Furthermore, experimenting with different positions can also help discover new erogenous zones and increase intimacy between partners. So, don't be afraid to get creative and try something new in the bedroom - it may just lead to a more satisfying and fulfilling sex life.
8. Make Him Wait
While it might seem like this is a weird one – why wait when you are in a rut? Well, the truth is, you want him to want you. Sex is actually better after you make your man wait for a couple days. Just give it a few days between sexual encounters and promise, it'll be that much sweeter!
9. Up the Ante
Challenge one another! I know that this one works. You constantly want to keep each other on your toes in real life, why not have it in your sex life? Up the ante on one another and see who is the craziest!
Getting in a sex rut and staying in one is hard. It's a hard position to talk about, hard position to be in and hard to get out of. I know that these tips work, all you have to do is have an open mind! How do you ladies deal with a sex rut in your relationship? Do you have any tricks to spice things up?
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