When you are looking for things to add to your bedroom experience to spice it up and make it more intense, hair pulling is definitely one of the things that first comes to mind. It isn’t an act that is crazy enough to scare you or your partner away, but when it is done right, it can be absolutely amazing! To make sure that you go forward with the correct approach, here is a briefguide to hair pulling during sex.
1. The Back
The best place to pull to cause a pleasurable sensation is around the back of the scalp, basically the opposite side compared to the face!
2. Four Fingers
Basically start by running your four fingers down the back of your partner’s neck, just below the hairline, then point upwards and work your way up in to their hair from that direction.
3. Grab
Once you reach a spot where you can get good purchase, pull the hair not by yanking, but instead by scrunching your fist up into a slow ball, remembering to start off being gentle and then increasing your grip with consent and encouragement.
4. Pulling Downwards
Don’t just let go of the hair in that scrunched position, instead slowly pull downwards, allowing the hair to slip out of your fingers bit by bit which provides some more sensation.
5. Repeat
Don’t just try it the once and then move on to something else. The more you pull hair in all of the different sensitive areas, the better it will feel after a while and the more it will contribute to your arousal and your growing orgasm.
6. ROUGH IT up a BIT
It may seem a bit porn-movie-ish, but there is pleasure gained when a girl wears a ponytail and her man is able to pull on it. The act of pulling from behind arches your back, thrusting your breasts upwards, creating a great entry position for your man from behind. It's a gentle way to introduce some light S&M.
7. Practise
The best way to perfect your skills is just to practise with a willing partner!
Frequently Asked Questions
- Is hair pulling during sex safe?
- When done gently and consensually, hair pulling can be safe and enjoyable; communication is key to avoid discomfort or injury.
- How can I introduce hair pulling to my partner?
- Start by discussing your interest openly and try light, gentle tugs to gauge comfort and consent.
- What are some tips for gentle hair pulling?
- Use a relaxed grip near the roots and avoid yanking; always pay attention to your partner's reactions.
- Can hair pulling increase pleasure?
- For many, mild hair pulling can heighten sensations and add excitement, especially when combined with kissing or touch.
- What if my partner doesn’t like hair pulling?
- Respect their boundaries and explore other forms of touch or intimacy that you both enjoy.
- How do I avoid pain while pulling hair?
- Keep pulls light and slow, communicate frequently, and stop immediately if your partner expresses discomfort.
- Is hair pulling always about dominance?
- Not necessarily; it can be a playful, sensual act that enhances connection without power dynamics.
- Can pulling hair cause hair damage?
- Occasional gentle pulling is unlikely to cause damage, but frequent or rough pulling may harm hair health.
- How to care for hair if I like pulling it during sex?
- Keep hair clean and conditioned to reduce breakage, and avoid tight grips that strain strands.
- Are there other similar sensual touch ideas to try?
- Yes! Consider exploring light scratching, gentle biting, or exploring erogenous zones for varied sensations.