Do you wish you were more confident in the bedroom? Many women find their comfort level when it comes to their sexuality but pushing your sexual confidence can take you from being a tame kitten to a sex goddess, or wherever in between you want to be. You don’t have to be or do anything you aren’t comfortable with but it’s fun to see where your limits are and a few small changes can make you more self-assured in bed. And I’m pretty sure your guy is not going to complain if you take charge more. Ready to get your sexy-er on?
1 Sexy Lingerie
One way to be confident and sexy in the bedroom is to invest in some sexy lingerie. Not only will looking sexy excite your partner, it will also give you a much-needed boost of confidence. You will be amazed at the boost that a simple set of matching lingerie can bring you!
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2 Role Play
It might take some confidence to work up to, but engaging in some role-play with your partner can be very freeing and provide you with some sort of escapism that you can find further confidence in. Pretending to be somebody else for an evening can help you to discover the real sexiness inside yourself. Eventually, you will be able to bring this confidence in another character to your real self in the bedroom.
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Building on that transformative energy, consider taking it a step further by dressing the part. Slip into a costume that aligns with your character to fully immerse yourself. Whether it’s a sultry siren of the sea or a bold warrior queen, let the attire amplify your alter ego. It’s not just about the clothes; it’s about the freedom to express parts of yourself usually hidden away. Embrace this opportunity to explore and experiment, knowing that within the reinvention lies a path to uncovering a fiercely confident you, unafraid to be whomever you desire behind closed doors.
3 Dirty Talk
Be brave and try out a little dirty talk every now and then. It's a fun way to make things different and can get really sexy if you want it to! Even simple things like telling your partner exactly what you want him to do to you can really spice up the mood. Give it a try, you never know, you might be a natural!
4 Play Some Music
They invented slow jams for a reason! If some of the magic has turned to awkwardness over the years, then a great way to cover this is to play some really sexy music to get you in the mood and fill any unsexy silences. Turn the lights down low, press play on some soulful R&B, and let the magic unfold! Some good choices are Usher, John Legend and Alicia Keys.
5 Dim the Lights
And following on from the slow jams, there is a lot that can be said for dimming the lights. If you seem to have lost a little bit of confidence in your body, then there is no shame in dimming the lights and leaving something to your partner's imagination. In fact, candlelight can be a very sexy atmosphere in which to reignite your romance. Not feeling so exposed in the light of a bulb can make you feel more relaxed and in turn, much more sexy.
6 Perfume
It should not be underestimated how impactful a particular scent of perfume can be. Think about the perfume that you wore on special occasions like your first date of your wedding day. The memories of that fragrance can take even the longest of relationships back to their exciting and passionate beginnings where everything found a way to be super sexy!
7 Massage Oil
You can kill two birds with one stone using massage oil: the first being that you can have a nice, therapeutic relaxing time with someone that you love; and the second being that that relaxing time can very quickly turn into a sexy time if you want! There is something so sensual and aromatic about massage oil that can really get the juices flowing.
8 Strip in Slow-motion
By doing a strip tease you focus less on how you look and feel and more on making sure your partner is enjoying themselves. If a choreographed routine isn't your thing, focus on slowly and seductively removing each article of clothing. Don't let your partner touch you until you're completely naked and always maintain eye contact to build the intensity of feelings and irresistibility.
9 Take Control
Men love a woman in control (in the bedroom that is). So by being specific and demanding yet maintaining a sexy sensual voice, you'll make your man feel desirable beyond belief and make him feel as though no one else can satisfy you like they can. Tell him what you want to do, what you want him to do, and what you love about what he does!
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Asserting your desires isn't just about giving orders; it's an invitation for him to explore your passions with you as a guide. Whisper your needs into his ear with breathy tones that'll send shivers down his spine. It's all about balance—combining a touch of dominance with vulnerability. When you expose your innermost cravings, you not only empower yourself but also strengthen the connection between you both, creating a deeply intimate and mutually satisfying experience.
10 Positive Thinking
Above all things, positive thinking will make your sexiness and confidence in the bedroom soar! If you feel like the hottest chick in the world, that will show in your bedroom actions. You won't be able to focus on the negatives if you're paying attention to the positives and it'll definitely boost your sex appeal to your partner.
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