You and your man need to agree on a few things if you want to last. That's why you should sit down with him and have a serious discussion about how you expect each other to behave. If you're not quite sure what to say to him, here are a few deals you should make with your boyfriend if you want a healthier relationship:
1. To Never Keep Secrets
Unless he's trying to hide your birthday gift from you, he should never lie to you. You two need to be open with each other about everything, even when it's difficult.
2. To Tell Each Other Where You’re Going
If you go out with your friends, text him to let him know where you are. He should return the favor by giving you updates on where he is, as well.
3. To Alternate Who Pays
It isn't fair for him to always be the one picking up the bill. That's why you should agree to alternate paying, just like you should alternate doing the dishes and taking out the garbage.
4. To Stop Threatening Each Other
Don't threaten to leave him, and definitely don't threaten to hurt him. It's the worst thing you could ever do.
5. To Always Be Honest
If you ask him if he likes your dress, he should give you his honest answer. Its better than having him say what he thinks you want to hear.
6. To Stop Bringing up Old Fights
Once a fight is over, you should put it in the past. If you keep rehashing old arguments, you'll never have a healthy relationship.
7. To Wait to Watch Shows Together
If you two always watch Game of Thrones together, don't watch ahead without him. Unless he gives you permission, stick to tradition.
8. To Show Each Other off
You should be proud of each other. That's why you should brag about each other whenever you can.
9. To Compromise
Whenever you have a fight, you should try to work through it like adults. That means you should compromise, instead of letting one person have their way.
10. To Text Everyday
You might not see each other every single day, but you should at least talk every single day. It doesn't matter if you call, Skype, or text, as long as you hear from each other.
11. To Keep Private Things Private
Don't tell your friends all the details about the hot sex you had. Some things should stay between you and your boyfriend.
12. To Be Nice to Each Other’s Family
Even if you can't stand his mother, you need to suck it up and deal with her. If you love him, you'll put aside your differences and be civil.
13. To Share Food
If you order dessert, you should offer him a bite. He should do the same.
14. To Make Your Relationship a Priority
If you want to last as a couple, you need to put him before anything else. That doesn't mean you should quit your job and drop your friends. It just means you can't neglect him.
15. To Always Say How You Feel
He deserves to hear the truth. Don't hold anything back, because he wants to know how you're feeling.
16. To Let Each Other Have Time with Friends
You can't be together constantly. That's why you shouldn't be angry when he goes off to have fun with his guy friends once a week.
17. To Stop Accusing Each Other
Don't accuse him of cheating, or of hating you, until you have proof. People hate to have words thrown into their mouths. Listen to what he has to say before you make accusations.
If you want your relationship to last a lifetime, you need to make certain deals with each other. Do you and your boyfriend live by these rules?
Frequently Asked Questions
- What are some fun deals to make with your boyfriend?
- Oh, you can have so much fun with this! Think movie night trade-offs, like he picks one week and you pick the next. Or maybe a cooking challenge where you both cook for each other on alternate weekends. Even surprise date vouchers can be super cute!
- How can I come up with good boyfriend voucher ideas?
- Get creative and think about what makes him smile! How about a massage voucher? Or a 'get out of chores' free card? You can even do something quirky like a 'his choice of movie' night or 'breakfast in bed' coupon.
- What are some serious dealbreakers for guys?
- Oh, that's a big one! Generally, dishonesty and disrespect are major red flags. If you can't trust each other, it's a no-go. Also, constantly ignoring each other's needs or being overly controlling can be big dealbreakers.
- How do I deal with conflicts in my relationship?
- Communication is key! Make sure you're both listening and not just waiting for your turn to talk. Be honest about your feelings but be ready to hear his side, too. Sometimes taking a little time apart to cool down can really help.
- What should I offer in a relationship to make it worthwhile?
- Oh, this one's big! Offer your genuine self—honesty, love, and support. Be a good listener, be patient, and show appreciation. Small gestures of kindness go a long way in making any relationship stronger.