My flirting days are over, but I remember how awkward I was when I used to try. I mean, I was just terrible. I'm still awkward – and I lied, I flirt often and well with my wife, but that's just because she finds my awkwardness appealing. You'll find someone whose awkward fits with yours, too, I promise. In the meantime, try these flirting tips. They ought to help, even if you're awkward AF.
And if you have to fake it 'til you make it, that's cool. When you're confident, everyone tends to believe it.
You know interesting things, right? You might hate small talk, but that's all good. Use your weird trivia tidbits as conversation starters.
Even if diving into deep topics feels a bit daunting, your quirky facts can totally be the gateway to show your unique personality. Let those slices of knowledge lead into more meaningful conversations. Remember that enthusiasm is contagious—if you're passionate about the curious things you know, chances are your eagerness will light up the room (and the eyes of that certain someone). So next time you're caught in the dreaded lull, pull out a fascinating fact and watch as it turns into the perfect icebreaker.
Hard, but important. Practice in the mirror, or with your BFF.
Practice this, too. Or, rather, practice not doing this. You don't want to come off like a creeper.
Interested in somebody? Pretend you're a chess piece. Edge closer, put yourself in your crush's line of sight – but again, don't be creepy!
Sometimes it's all about geographical convenience! Casually find reasons to be near where the action is, like grabbing a drink at the bar he's leaning on or perusing the book section he's browsing. Make your movements seem natural and coincidental. Remember to respect personal space. A subtle invasion can spark curiosity, but overstepping boundaries is a no-go. And when you catch their eye, offer a quick, charming smile before redirecting your attention. It's all about that cat-and-mouse game; make them wonder, "Is she interested in me?"
Make sure it's open-ended, too. Try to avoid yes or no question.
Flash that smile! That's actually an excellent way to give yourself a quick confidence boost, too.
It's not a big deal. None of this is the end of the world. Try to stay relaxed. It makes everything so much easier.
You need to be totally cool with who you are. Make your awkwardness work for you. Find your groove.
They're more interesting than you think they are. Yep, other people will think so, too.
Anecdotes are pretty awesome. It's also the perfect way to embrace your awkwardness because you probably have some stories that highlight it.
It's a body language thing. Don't cross any personal boundaries, but you can use your angles.
Getting slightly closer to someone shows interest without being overwhelming. Lean in when they're talking to show you're engaged in the conversation. Touch their arm lightly during a laugh or make eye contact a tad longer than usual. These subtle cues suggest that you're into them, even if you're not saying it out loud. Just remember to read their reaction—if they lean in too, you're golden. If they seem uncomfortable, respect their space and take a step back.
Make it very, very light, though, and don't go overboard. You should also wait a while, until you're in a flowing, comfortable conversation.
Nothing outlandish, but sometimes if you let your crush catch you looking, then look away, it's a clear sign of interest. You can flirt without having to say anything.
Play around, give your crush a hard time – whatever feels comfortable
Remember what I said: embrace your awkwardness. It's yours.
Well, converse as much as possible, keep the conversation going as long as possible. Sometimes you have to push yourself.
What's the most awkward thing you've ever done when you were trying to flirt?