Ever wondered do opposites really attract? Are you in a relationship, but you have fights often because your tastes are a little different? And you are seriously considering breaking up in hopes you will find someone with whom you will be more “compatible” even if you really love the man you are with now despite all the arguments?
Better take a breath and evaluate the situation before you take any rushed decisions. Ask yourself this: What is really the reason you are fighting? Is it some unimportant thing like the movie you will go to see or the music in the car or do you actually fight over these small things because you are both angry about something else and always on the lookout for a good opportunity to start a fight? So, do opposites really attract?
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1. Negotiate
If you count out the breakup option as a last resort, the solution is one in both occasions. Talk. Simple but effective. When you are arguing about music or movies or something else, just negotiate a little. Most of the time this works, and it is quite simple. Yes, you might be obligated to see a movie you don’t like but your partner will be also obligated to let you pick the music in the car next time you go for a ride. You might find yourself going to a bar you don’t particularly like but equally, your partner will be going with you to that art gallery you wanted to see.
2. Talk It out
The second choice when you take out your frustrations on each other using small things as an excuse, is to talk. Find out together or separately, the reason you are angry and bothered. Sometimes it might not be something about each other or the relationship you share. It might be because you are stressed at work or some other reason. If it is something that you can overcome, then do that and go from there. If it is not something that you can both overcome, then you can consider the last option and breakup.
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3. Consider the Alternative
Fighting between couples is exhausting but at the same time, it is completely necessary in some ways. Imagine that you did break up with your partner, not because of a deeper reason but really because you don’t like the same type of movies or music or bars. Or even because your opinions on matters are a little bit different. And then you meet someone that seems to share the same opinions and tastes with you. You never argue over what to do, which movie to watch, where to vacation, you never argue about anything. How long do you think this relationship will work for you before you are bored out of your mind? You will eventually realize you are dating a copy of yourself and how completely unexciting will that be?
4. Find Balance
When it comes to relationships, balance is the key to a successful one. There might be some arguments sometimes, but that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that you should condemn your relationship at once. As scary as it sounds to talk about your feelings, it is also completely necessary. You are supposed to be in a relationship with this man with a commitment that requires trust. If you can’t talk to each other about these things then your relationship still needs some work. And in the end, the real question is whether you and he are willing to put that to work.
