Everyone gets over an ex differently. It depends on how you process pain and sadness, the nature and length of your relationship, and what ended it in the first place, or any number of other things. Still, no matter what, there are a few things you have to do for yourself. It may take a while before you feel like doing them, but seriously, they'll help.
1 Realize How Much Better off You Are
You really are. This could be the best thing that ever happened to you.
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2 But First, You Need to Wallow
Wallowing is essential. You're entitled to a little self-pity.
3 Let Yourself Go Wild
Go out with your friends. Belt out your favorite song as you drive down the highway. Dance naked around your house. Whatevs.
4 Talk as Much Smack as You Want
I know, everyone else tells you to rise above and be the better person. I believe I have actually given that advice before myself. Still, sometimes you have to. Just do it … with good judgment, let's say.
5 Put Together the Perfect Playlist(s)
You need a sad one and a happy, upbeat one. Perhaps an angry one, too.
6 Do Not Call or Text Your Ex
Don't. It will just lead to emotional manipulation and other bad things.
7 Demand More
You're worth it. Listen to Yang. Always listen to Yang.
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Yang is all about self-empowerment and recognizing your true value. If your ex wasn't giving you what you needed or deserved, it's time to raise the bar. Embrace your self-worth and seek out relationships that honor your needs and goals. You deserve someone who sees and treats you like the treasure you are. So elevate your standards. When it comes to love and respect, never settle for less – because the right person will meet you there, no compromises needed. Be unstoppable in your quest for what you truly deserve.
8 Unfriend Even You Still Stalk
I'm not even going to say anything about stalking. I know you feel like you'll miss a lot if you stop following your ex on social media, and yeah, you will, but if you really want to get over this, just stalk the public stuff.
9 Clear Your Mind
See? This is the purpose of unfriending your ex.
10 Have a First Date
Maybe even with someone who's not your usual type.
11 … or a One Night Stand
Hey. Sometimes they help.
12 Let Go of Your Love
A little at a time … or a lot. Whatever works for you.
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Releasing the hold that your past love has on your heart can feel daunting, but remember, healing is not a race. Start by peeling away the emotional attachments bit by bit. Picture it as pulling off a bandage – it can be a slow, steady process or a quick motion; whichever path you choose, the important thing is making progress. Surround yourself with friends, dive into hobbies that light you up from inside, and embrace the new space you're creating in your life for self-love and future happiness. The key is taking that first step and trusting that each subsequent one gets easier.
13 Own Your Pain
If you can't own it, you can't get over it.
14 Let Yourself Cry
Seriously. Crying can often be just the release you need.
15 Avoid Getting Back Together at All Costs
Unless your ex is seriously The One, of course. But if you're really trying to get over her or him, just don't do it.
16 Put up Some Walls for a Little While
They'll protect you. Right now you need some protection.
17 Realize It's Her/his Loss
Not yours. You've still got you. You're the clear winner in this situation.
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